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I agree there is an overlap in the both.I have been abused by a woman for over 7 years.I have changed my phone number over 20 times to avoid her harrassment..She has been at least 75 % of my divorce.She has been very verbally abusive to both my wife and I .She is married also and has a thought that I am cheating on her and of coarse everything is my fault and everyone elses..I have had the law involved 2 times now but she doesnt seem to care.I contacted her husband he she has him thinking its me

i totally agree with you. I suspect I am BPD and my mother is NPD. She is selfish, manipulative, does nothing for anyone else and expects everyone to do everything for her. Whereas I just feel very sad all the time and I'm desperate to feel loved and important to someone They say that you should just leave an NPD and BPD because they don't want to change. This isn't true for BPD's. I want to change, I want to be normal - if someone could help me do that I would gladly accept that help.

I'm not sure why people always try to compare narcissism and BPD. I have BPD, and I also have a narcissist mother. I can tell you that I am nothing like a narcissist. I feel very sad when people try to compare these two disorders, because in my experience, I've found that many people who have BPD just want to be supported and loved. The narcissist does not want to be loved, they want to be worshiped. Sorry if I offend anyone, and thanks for these videos.

Read your thoughts about BPD and NPD. My thought when listening to this video was just that very thing - a BPD sounds like a wounded child of a NPD and such children only want to get well and feel love they never recieved as children. To "leave" them would be to hurt them more. I think good therapy by a good therapist would be better then "leaving". NPD's one should look through and reveal. If they get mad - leave them.

its totally the other way around. narc will make bpd cry but bpd's will comeback with a vengeance. i have both bpd and npd. but my kids dad has npd. i was disgnosed with bpd with narcissistic traits. my kids dad n me been at it for years sometimes hes got the upper hand sometimes i have it but when i have it he doesnt know what hit him and i usually have him begging for mercy,,psychologically.

i was replying to someone elses comment not u.: =) your not stupid,,,your nice. i can help you with your info on npd and bpd. if u have any questions feel free to message me. i know a lot about npd and bpd. you seem pretty savvy about these disorders but on some stuff your a little off and i wish i could help you correct your mistakes or misunderstandings.

Indeed there is plenty of spoiled boys growing up into selfcentered bastards believing them to be almighty and important. I think alot of that is due to the raising of them, often by very admiring mothers who treats their sibblings differently to implant the idea of their grandiousness into them. We form our children, but alot is in their personality.

you know what helps bpd/npds get better?? compliments, encouragement, more compliments..i always perk up when complimented. if the compliment isnt satisfactory i will act like a 3 y/o expecting n waiting for a better compliment. if anyone who thinks they have bpd/npd and disagrees w/ me..you probably have bpd/bi-polar. yuck go cry to your mommy

by the way, whether you are N or BPD or whatever, I will not tolerate any abusive attitudes or language on my channel. When it comes to my channel I decide what to allow, not anyone else. I will not bow to any narcissist nor will I allow a BPD person to scapegoat or put guilt on me or shame, etc. I know who and what I am and WHO I belong to.

I am FAR from stupid. You don't know who you are talking to. I am a college educated, magna cum laude graduate with a BA degree in Psychology and working toward a MA degree. Not stupid at all, but sometimes not real practically adept.

@HaDagesh I know I have dated a few after my divorce too! I guess the most amazing thing to me though is, how they can turn everything into looking like WE are the crazy ones and the ones at fault for them being JERKS!

I am sorry to hear that you are have been being abused by that woman, BK. I must ask though, why did you have to change your phone number 20 times? How did she keep finding it out? ~Laura

Hoo boy! I have many of those BPD traits, even after 20-plus years of recovery. But I'll never give up. My goal in this life is to heal. Thanks for these excellent videos.

plus this is a quote from a psychiatrist "narcissistic are no match for borderlines" honest to god. get the fact straight

worship and love is one in the same to a narcissist and its something they want and expect from everybody.

but i been busy so when i have time i will watch the videos again and comment..and email you

Someone emailed me and asked if this is some kind of "baiting" video. What does that mean?

ok gem. I'm game. Email me your corrections at [email protected]

Get this, I have BPD and some npd traits my husband has npd I suspect

you may write me by email at [email protected]

Laura, how can I contact you?

great video as always!

i agree with you

you're stupid.

"Why don't you write a book about "Narcies?"" lol @ Narcies. Too cute. And i agree too. she would be good. 

I have tried 3 times to write books and it just happens that I am better at doing videos than writing books. If I could find someone to WRITE it for me, that would work.

If you were abusd by one you would be focused on that as well. I focus on the subject because I grow up with one. 

Sissy, I always find it amusing when I'm asked this question, because I wonder if the person asking it has watched all my videos or not yet. If you watched the rest of my videos, I'm certain that you'd find out, yes, I not only was married to a narcissist for 23 years but also have had fellow ministry partners, teachers, priests, and leaders in my life that were narcissists or narcissistic.  I made a single series of videos in 2005 or 2006 and from there, people were pleading with me to keep making more. I wanted victims to know that they were not imagining the abuse, someone believed their story as they told about it, and there was hope for them. 

Hi Nikitia...Thank you for the kind words, for reading my books, & especially for mentioning the "intersection" point! Cooperation /compromise are so important in this life & N's are incapable (& uninterested!) in both. Please do leave reviews at Amazon & come visit me at my blog to share your wise words. I appreciate you!   ....Zari xo

So I dumped my narcissistic ex about a year ago. Now he will be getting married and my sister's going to the wedding. At first I didn't understand her stand on all this but now it's very clear. Her husband is friend's with my ex and she always puts up with her husband's friends and his and their obnoxious ways.  If anyone knows about narcissists they always get their way and try to put everyone against you for vengeance. My ex was really pissed whne I dumped him and told everyone about his controlling manipulating ways including his new gf. Well my ex invited my sister and her husband to his wedding. I'm always with my nieces and enjoy spending time with them. So my sister is going to ask me to babysit them this week while she goes to the wedding. I am hurt by what she has done to me but I'm forgiving to her as my sister. Her husband is a narcissist as well. I love being with my nieces and don't mind babysiting them but I feel like such a loser. My ex gets all he wants and I'm left home alone babysitting my nieces. He must laugh everytime he hears I'm being used as a babysitter and how I have to hear about all his good times. Can you say chump? I know that I'm better off but I can't say I don't feel low as being the good person and being dealt a shitty hand. It seems being bad pays off in the end. The other day he put his hand around my sister as saying see I put everyone against you even your sister. He gets narcissistic supply from seeing me make some sense of all his demented ways. It's as evil as it comes and he wins while I'm being used as a fool even not being in the relationship anymore. I don't know how to react to this I don't mind babysiting my nieces any other time but it seems that all this is agreeing with his ways. Like if someone asks or he asks about who are the kids with of they are with their aunt and he will laugh as he says and "I'm getting married".  I was thinking I can go out with my nieces on Saturday so I can get through the day. He's a very charismatic and likebale as well as religious so people can't believe he's a habitual liar. How do I react when she tells me she's going and wants me to stay with my nieces. What should say and act. I'm really trying my best to get over it all.  My relationship with my sister has been good since a year and I really do love and care about her. She's also brainwashed by her narcissistic husband. I always knew that there was something about her husband but I couldn't figure it out. So my sister just puts up with it all even when I told her not to let herself get controlled by these two morons. In a way I'm glad he's finally getting married so I can stop hearing about it. Since we talked about getting married ourselves and now I look like the loser and he looks like the winner and the best man ever. I have been doing very good as I never called him to ask him to come back. I have been living my life and focusing on myself and what I have to do in life. I'm really proud of how much I have endured and have become stronger because of it. Yet I can't say I'm not baffled by how he gets away with it all even making my sister go to his wedding. It's so ironic and evil. On what your saying about this video I almost stopped talking to my sister for her betrayal on me. I have seen that she's the codependent and her husband takes advantage of her. Yet I have forgiven her because I see that her husband and my ex have used her even to lie to his new gf on how he's not the way I described him. I love my sister very much and her husband is even jealous about our relationship. His brother and him hate each other and he's envious of my sister and I.

+Smileyyy21  Hi there...Look, narcissists do not change. They aren't hard-wired that way. They can't be fixed - not with love, therapy, or any magic pill. Whatever you were, you're not that now and that's to your credit and no one else's. Sure, you obviously had narcissistic qualities...I'd go with that...but having narcissistic qualities (even a lot of them) doesn't make you one. I always say there's a fine line between the narcissists of the world and the people who are just assholes...(not to say you were an asshole...just making a point). The difference is that jerks are capable of growing up or having a change of heart or maybe something happens that makes them look at the world differently. Narcissists are simply not capable of any of that because they can never ever be convinced that they're wrong.Nobody is perfect so don't label yourself that way. I guarantee - would bet my life on it - that you weren't a narcissist. Maybe a good bit narcissistic but the fact that you grew out of it or learned your lesson or found yourself...you're just someone who actually changed a big negative about themselves to a positive. And that's a whole lot more than can be said for most of us, believe me.Thanks for writing...sorry for the delay in responding. Come by thenarcissisticpersonality.com and visit. Lots of information awaits....Zarixo

I know I was because for two to three years I didn't feel sympathy for anyone. I remember being the rudest person to the people I loved the most. My selfishness level went to highs after I left high school. During that time I was looking for identity and during that time I had low self esteem. I met a great guy but when I met him a switch when off in my mind and I could see how much I could get from him. My mom always told me not to use people because she's a very sympathetic person. I had become just like my dad using guys. I used men and had hatred towards them because my dad was the same way. I felt that if I ever loved anyone I would never be enough. Narcissists know what they are doing in their minds is wrong but the emotions of unworthiness are more powerful than their own conscious. It took me a couple of years to get over all this and have learned that people aren't to be used that way. I do believe that is harder for someone who has two narcissist parents to get out of the high level of selfishness they are in.

Hello...Narcissists cannot be fixed or cured so my thought is that you are not and never have been a narcissist. But that would be good news! Now, it is IS possible that you've been a victim of narcissism and made to FEEL that bad things that happened were of your doing. Come to my site to read and share...we'll figure it out:)  ....Zari xo

+Mitul Lala So glad my videos have helped you....I know what it feels like to be amazed that narcissism is in fact real and realizing you are married to a narcissist isn't easy! You can take your power back....it does take time...be compassionate with yourself when you take a step back and celebrate every small step forward!!

+Clutterbrains Im sorry to hear that...I've been there. Hang in there and remember the less you allow him to engage you in fighting, the less anger he sees (Its not that you shouldn't feel anger or that you have no right...no just don't let him see it because sadly the worse you feel emotionally the better he feels) Be strong....you can do this and life gets so much better

+alexabreana Thank you!!!

@preprocker1987 : This type of Fraud is the result of 45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that: - Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists! - Women are helpless Victims, Men Perpetrators! - Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!

And don't bring the taxpayers into your efforts to put that lady on the ground. As a taxpayer the judge must ordered you for her expenses not the taxpayers. This is just a little of your tricks. 

Al, nobody is going to be convinced by a video like this. It just makes you look like a conspiracy theorist. 

Fuck VAWA! Send that wetback prostitute back to Mexico where she belongs!

Too busy looking at her tits to pay attention to any message....

45 years of "Feminist" Domestic Violence Industry Evil Indoctrination that is now Indoctrinated into Politics, the Government, Courts, Police and General Public, Encouraging an Epidemic of False Accusations of Sexual Harassment, Domestic Violence and Rape, that: - Women are Good, All Men are Violent and Rapists! - Women are helpless Victims, Men are Perpetrators! - Women need Help and Protection, Men must be Restrained, Prosecuted and Jailed!

@Kyouryuu5000 . ...cont... Solving Problems and Creating by Boys/Men neccessitate a Srong Connection to Reality (Physical, Truth) while Expression can be anything: Fiction, Fantasy, Distortions, Lies. This explains why Feminism is pure Lies and why Women are Innately Inferior!