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thanks for this great interview

okaaaaaayyyy... i dont think i want to have her as my counsellor.. she doesnt make me feel comfortable at all just by looking at her face =s shes kind of intimidating! ANDshe crossed her leg! her body slopped down to the chair.. didnt even sat up straight and she had her hands clasp together!

This counselor is pants. She sits there laid back with her legs crossed. The client is sitting better. The counselor is hopeless. I would never speak to a client like this. 'Did you want to keep coming ad infinitum?? What a lousy thing to say!

What a load of bollucks regarding her legs crossed ....bad body language, she was softly spoken & relaxed, not corporate ,she maintained eye contact & kept her distance............excellent

I understand your comments about body language, but please culture in mind. If you travel to England, you will notice a more standoffish body language as the norm.

the counsellor's body language isn't very approachable and she her tone doesn't come across as very friendly.

This couselor gives me the chills... Reminds me of my own therapist and how he always feels distant... Ugh.

I really don't think that matter a hoot, whether it's in counsellor training or not.

Just a small criticism. The counsellor keeps giving her a funny look.

Counsellor has her legs crossed. Poor body language

"separate the wheat from the chaff" an old adage. google it!

+Sanna Lahti Hello Sanna, so good to hear that you learnt to start to trust your instinct and recognise this narcissistic personality after only three months. I hope your self awareness becomes even stronger and more in tune with every passing day.. :-)

+Ryley Tompkins Hmmm… Yes, thank you. Grey rock is a good thing to learn. My cats really love me. (I have two cats.) But the younger one especially. She is so emphatic. When I had huge stress in my work last winter, she reacted by dropping her hair of her stomach. She is little fat so with her bald stomach she was like a little cat-Buddha when she sat :D 

+Ryley Tompkins Thank you for your kind answer! Helping and caring -problem is not the only problem, I think. Just to see how much negativity and hidden aggression is inside me - and that they come out as unwelcome reactions in certain situations - I feel myself quite hopeless sometimes. Especially when I have just decided to be "love and light" - and then I am something else. For example my daughter just told me that some of her studentmates have betrayed the promise they had given to her to help her in one schoolwork. It was one second and I saw red  and I messaged her: "What?! I feel like to come and beat them up! How they can do like that!" Of course I did not mean, that she really had to DO it or that I really go to do it - I just wanted to show her, that I am on her side and not as my mom who would have said: "Do not care! Anyway, what bad did you do because they did so to you?" This is how my mom has said to me when I have been treated badly and I always felt bad about it that she did not care of my feelings nor was on my side, but always protected other children, not me. I was always to blame for. But my daughter got angry at me and said: "Mom, you are so childish! Do you really think that the violence is the answer! How can you be so stupid!!! You never support me - I just feel worse now! Why can not you be an adult!" And then she threw me out of WhatsApp for a day. So, I did not really succeeded to show her, that I am on her side and that I feel, that those who promise to do something and then do not, are wrong, not her as she seemed to feel. It was breaking my heart and I truly was angry to her schoolmates who let her in trouble. Love and light was far away from me in that moment. I noticed how aggressive I am and also this reaction reminds me very much of my mother. She is just like this aggressive in her expressions and I have always disliked it. This is why my daughter also said to me: "You are like your mother!" I was surprised because I had just tried to be totally different and to show my daughter, that she was not wrong, the person who betrayed her was wrong! Unlike my mom had had said to me! My mom would have said: "What is wrong with you that you are treated so badly? What bad you did?" Now I see that I have same type of expressions as my mom and as a result I did not get my main message through: that I care about her and that I am on her side. I just do not know what to do with people who betray their promises. I do not have any answer to that problem and I feel bad when my daughter feels that she is wrong, when some other people does wrong to her! Even I have tried my best to be for he and support her, she still feels in that way. I feel failed completely as a mother when i hear this kind of things after all I have tried to teach her. Caring of others is not really the only problem: I feel everything is going wrong even no-one is there manipulating me. Better to sit home with cats and not to talk anything.

You are welcome! 

+Mary Allen I can relate. My mother too, siblings etc. The abuse has been going on since I was a young child, so missing my graduation(s) from college never phased me (she actually talked me out of going to my first one).... I have so many stories of the abuse from my mom/stepdad and siblings that it is exhausting. When I first heard +Ross Rosenberg 's videos last year- it was after my mother abandoned me for no reason at all. She took my brainwashed siblings and so many other relatives too. It is amazing bc they have nothing to go on... I have done nothing wrong to anyone and they KNOW me, they KNOW I am a good person.... but the charisma/false victimhood and lies of the Narcs are like magic poison. At first, I didn't want to believe I am codependent- but the CPTSD kicked in full force and though It has been SUPER difficult because I realize how my codependency has led me to be abused and mistreated by many other people.... it is a journey I am on. I will check out your channel too. THANK YOU ROSS FOR ALL YOU DO!!!!!!!!!

You too??!!  My dad's side of the family, with the exception of my grandmother, missed my HS graduation and my dad almost missed my BA graduation (big fight about it), and then skipped out on my MS graduation along with my step-mom.  I notice whenever I accomplish anything, that's when my dad gets the worst.  He tries to sabotage me psychologically and deny my accomplishments.  That's when his belittling me reaches it's peak.  Sorry for your situation.... so glad to know I'm not alone!!!

My mother abuses me mentally then she turns it around accusing me of jumping on her when all i do is try n make her see shes hurting me. My ex boyfriend, in addition to these afflictions, has paranoid personality disorder. The damage these people I love have done to me is worse than I realized. I am considering getting a counselor to help me through this..... Good luck to you all.