It doesn't take much to make me cry now a days but this is a topic that send me straight to cry baby camp :( It's a very personal video but i decided to share it with ...
So when I put make up on, I like to do it while at my computer so I can
watch/listen to youtube videos. Let me just say it was very difficult
putting my mascara on while watching this one. I felt the same way as you
when i was pregnant with my second. What i did after my second was born, I
tried to take every opportunity to hug and kiss and hold my first son as
much as possible. Cuddle, sit next to each other. Be silly with him often
as much as I could. Good luck momma, things will work out.Hugs
You had me crying! I felt the same as you before number two was born. I
spent alot of time with my first child before his brother was born. We made
and "I'm the Big Brother" shirt together, and made him feel special about
being the big brother. We also got a gift for him to give him at the
hospital, and we gave it to him when he met his brother and said this was
from his new baby brother. It really made him feel special, wearing his new
"I'm a Big Brother" shirt and getting a gift. Hugs! Heather
Lily, I felt the same way you did when I was about to have my second
daughter. I felt guilty and like I was taking mommy away from my older
daughter. I was very emotional, but once I had my babygirl and saw how much
Mia loved her babysister Ava and she just wanted to help change her, hold
her, feed her, etc. and I just let her help out as much as she could. I
also did little dates with her to myself a break and also let her know that
Im still hers and we could have alone time anytime she wanted.
I totally get your feeling in this video. We have a six year old son and
are now about 18 weeks along with baby number 2, but it has been just the 3
of us for so long it's hard to imagine anything different. I do plan on
having my son be very involved and doing as much of what we do now after
baby comes. I also like the idea of the baby giving him a gift at the
hospital. -thank you so much for being so open and sharing such personal
feelings. You'll help a lot of women realize we are all full o
Oh my goodness. I have two little boys (1 and 3) and I totally cried about
this often before baby brother was born. What we did that made it special
was that I made sure to have a special Mommy- son day with the oldest
before the baby was born. We went to the park, we watched his favorite
movie, I made his favorite meal for dinner and I just tried to show him an
extra amount of love that day. I also bought a special gift for him, that
we gave to him when he came to the hospital to see the baby!
i had all these feelings too, a lot of us do! when my 2yr old met my
newborn for the first time i wept- so happy yet grieving for things to be
the way they were aswell......anyway this didnt last long! 2 happy bubs and
super close bond with both now 3yrs and 9M:))) my advice is nothing
original - involve them in everything - explain everything to them - have
presents wrapped and ready in hospital bag for baby and brother to exchange
when they meet... good luck everything will be wonderful x
I struggle daily with this. Our daughter just turned five and our son is
seven months. One thing that truly has helped was the fact that she was
present at his birth. It was a last minute idea that actually came from my
daughter. I know that won't be possible for you since you are having a
csection but definitely the involvement from the beginning is a must in
some form. She loves to help take care of him and I make sure to give her
"jobs" (keep him entertained, sing to him in the car).
When #2 was born we made sure to include my first in everything. We got her
a baby doll that she took care of and a nursing box that was filled with
prizes and snacks. we were always filling it with new toys and goodies. The
box only came out when I was nursing. This kept my first busy while I was
nursing but also made her excited for when I was nursing the baby. She
would sit with us and look through the box while we nursed so it gave us
lots of bonding time with her and the new baby.
Aw this video made me cry too. I completely understand how you feel. My son
was 4 when we had our second child, so I had 4 years where it was just us 3
in our little family. And the thought of adding another baby, while
exciting, was terrifying. I felt like I was replacing my son. But just as
everyone had told me, as soon as my daughter was born, I had so much love
for her. It was amazing. It will be a transition at first, but your new
little baby will fit right in. I promise.
We didn't know what the sex of the baby was until we had her! Then my mom
took Amber to Build a Bear and she got to make a special bear for her new
sister as a birthday present. She was so excited to give it to her. She
also helped us name her. Amber has always been very independent so there
wasn't any jealous problems. Now when Liam was born, Madi was completely
opposite. You've been given some great advice already Lily, you're a
wonderful mother and it will all be great.
The anxiety is so normal. I was a wreck before my 2nd was born and now he's
5 weeks and i can't imagine our family without him. It's an adjustment the
first few weeks but once you get a little routine going, it all falls into
place. We got matching big brother/little brother shirts and got our oldest
a gift. Evan had just turned 2 and honestly, he loves his little brother.
Always wants to hold him and kiss him...it's so beautiful to see his love
for his brother.
You have such a beautiful family and you will be surprised how much room
your heart has in it for more love. Nothing can change the special bond
that you have with Liam, nothing at all. He is the first and the baby's big
brother.You are going to really see how much of a big boy he is once you
bring the new baby home. Can't wait to see the new baby. You will see how
much your love will just expand - from a mom of 3 and a Nana to 5!
I'm a mom of 3 and What worked best for us is just make sure to include him
in caring for and playing with the new baby and still take some time for
just you and him even if it's just watching a show and popping popcorn
while the baby is napping or maybe make a hut out of blankets and the
kitchen chairs and play in it with him! We like to read books with a
flashlight in our huts :) you will do just fine!
I wish I cried like you when I had my 16 month old. When he came, my
daughter felt the real blow. Other than taking care of his needs he didn't
need snuggles so whenever I had ten mins between feedings and changes I
always spent time w her. They aren't particularly jealous, b jealous is not
positive, but more like they don't understand why the baby is taking up all
your time
I think every women who has had kids or is going through the same thing as
you understands why you are crying. It's hard to think of your child not
being able to have all your attention and feeling ignored. The best thing
you can do is get Liam to help out with baby as much as he can like get you
a diaper or help burp the baby. Your a great mom and will do fine
Aww you are so beautiful and your feelings are normal. When my second
daughter arrived I placed her in my then 4 year old daughters arms and told
her this was "her" baby. After that she was a little helper. Make sure you
let him help you with everything. And don't forget one on one time after
the baby is born. Good luck.
without you realizing, you will just transition and everything will start
to feel normal. Like if the baby was always there from day one!! Give
yourself a break and just take it one day at a time. Things will fall into
place. God bless Lily, you're a good mama and Liam & baby are so blessed to
have you! :-)
yeah I agree its like that when you add a second after so being with your
first born for so long...I cried all the time thinking my son was gonna be
mad or feel left out...but what me and my husband do is have special
outings with just him do something he likes to do and leave the youngest
with nanna
Now I'm expecting baby number 3 19 months after the second again and my son
is a lot more cuddly and loving. She didn't really miss me so much but I
know he will. They are the same age when their siblings come so there isn't
much I can do differently except that he will hav a friend when she didn't.
When you can, schedule special outings with Liam. He will find it even more
special to have the one on one time with you once little brother is here.
You are going to be amazed at how wonderful it is to see your 2 children
interact and love one another. It makes the world feel complete.
Awe that was so sweet! Your such a good mama! I am 3 months pregnant with
my 2nd so idk about making the 1st feel special. I heard buying them a gift
is good. You should totally do a video about it after he is here! I will be
thinking of you until the 17th!!
I have that same fear, I am making it my no.1 priority to include my son in
everything I do! He's my baby, has been for 4 years now, so I know exactly
how your feeling. I debated a long time on if we should even have a second,
because of the "guilt". :o)
and to make sure my son didnt feel left out when his sister came ... i
shared every moment with him and had him join in and help me as much as he
could with his little sister and he loved every second of it ... that the
only tip i can say really ;)
I'm right there with you! 35 weeks and feeling the exact same way.
Christian just turned 3 in June and he's my world. I stay home with him and
we are so close. I'm so nervous! Cried right along with you during this
video! Hang in there!
you look beautiful Lil ... and your allowed to cry babe ... not long to go
now the count down is on and your new beautiful lil man will be in your
arms !! so cant wait to meet him ... take care girl .. sending you love and
hugs ♥♥
Dynel Lane will not be charged with murder
Murder will not be among the charges filed Friday by Boulder County's District Attorney against the woman accused of attacking a pregnant woman and cutting ...
YET ANOTHER HIGHLY INBRED, PSYCHO-INSANE MURDERING, BLACK FEMALE, FISH-EYED
FOOL, THAT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ABORTED BEFORE SHE WAS BORN; TOMMY SOTOMAYOR
HAS BEEN ABSOLUTELY CORRECT ABOUT THIS MALIGNANT INFECTION THAT HAS BEEN
ALLOWED TO PROPAGATE WITHIN THE BLACK COMMUNITY. THESE BLATANTLY CRAZY
BITCHES HAVE BEEN ALLOWED TO AND WILL CONTINUE TO RUIN THE LIVES OF EVERY
CHILD THAT THEY ARE ALLOWED TO COME INTO CONTACT WITH. BLACK, WHITE OR ANY
RACE SHOULD ALWAYS BE PREPARED TO PROTECT THEMSELVES AND THEIR BORN, AND
NOW, UNBORN CHILDREN FROM THESE SICK, TWISTED AND SEVERELY PSYCHO BITCHES.
BE PREPARED TO WASTE ONE OF THESE SUB-HUMAN SOCIOPATHS BEFORE THEY SNAP AND
MURDER "YOU" OR "YOUR" UNBORN CHILD. TAKE CARE PEOPLE,THE SUB-HUMAN FILTH
IS BEING ALLOWED TO PILE UP TOO FAST, THANKS TO LIBERALS.
This woman planned to kidnap that baby and kill its mother. Just because
the mother didn't die and the baby died unintentionally ? WTF? These idiots
claim there's nothing to indicate the baby was murdered.....huh what? So if
someone cuts an unborn baby out of someone's belly it doesn't prove
anything? Even though the victim survived and explained everything......I
also hate how everyone blames the mother for going into a strangers house.
Yes it was a mistake but its not her fault the woman was psychopath.
That was just crazy inhumane torture to the mother and it killed her baby.
SHE MURDERED THAT WOMANS BABY. What the hell is wrong with our justice
system??? SHE NEEDS LIFE IN PRISON. She has already proven that she is too
dangerous to be out among the public. RIDICULOUS that anyone can say this
is not murder. She must never be free again.
She'll be out in less than a year. How do you like America now?? How happy
is she. You know? She killed someone else's kid because her kid accidently
drowned. Now she will be telling this story to her friends and they will be
joking about it after she's out in less than a year. America?
WAIT. You mean to tell me that women cannot get an abortion after 20 weeks
or abort at all because it is considered murder, but if someone else does
it against your will it's just unlawful termination????
So happy for you!!! Congratulations! No more hyperemesis! Did it go away
right away? I'm am 22 weeks today and counting down until I no longer have
to deal with this. Please pray for me!
Thank you and yes it was gone and I was eating/drinking normally with in two hours of delivery! I will pray for you and I hope HG at least starts to lighten up for you. It's the worst thing to go through the whole full 9 months!