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Wow Stef just blew my mind when he said that by always taking initiative
you will only find passive people in your life. As someone who's been
involved in pickup for several years, having seduced more then my fair
share of women, I've often been disappointed by the lack of intelligent
independent women in the world. They all seemed to blur into a submissive
mass that responds like automatons programmed in predictable ways. Perhaps
by always being the initiator of interactions with women I have been
selecting for the qualities I find distasteful in the opposite sex. Doing
the opposite however feels backward like a chicken and the egg type of
problem. I feel that if I don't initiate the interaction then it will never
happen having been fairly passive in my first 21 years of life. I suppose
the question is then how do you encourage other to take the initiative in
an interaction without being pro-active yourself?
Funny you should make that correlation, as I think it may be correct. The person I connected with most on an intellectual level was the one that approached me first. This is something to think about...And to answer your second question, I think I have a partial solution. I would say to join as many social clubs/groups/causes as you can that pertain directly to your interests. Then, once you are in an environment populated with individuals of similar interests, taking the initiative could lead to better results. Or, even just to be yourself in that environment, you may find you are more likely to be approached by someone you are more compatible with. (Note* This is obviously affected on your geographic location, as the number of good matches will be directly affected by the net total of potential matches available)
+Jacabo Blanco Damn bro, you nailed it. Thats exactly what I wanted to say. Exactly.There is no hope. I feel very demotivated after watching this video and knowing that the chance of finding a good woman is as much as zero percent.
It seems even the intelligent women want to be treated as a woman in the traditional sense. They want to be dinned out and pursued, it's the vision of happiness that they have been sold. I want a woman I can climb the Himalayas with who will weather the storm and doesn't need me to save her even if I will do so willingly. I find that a lot of my relationships fail due to this dynamic. A girl wants me to pay for dinner, because she wants to know that I desire her. I don't want to pay for dinner because I want to know she desires me and not my money. I play down my wealth despite being independently wealthy, because it attracts the parasites. The silly thing is that if I met a woman who didn't demand that I pay for her time and affection that eventually I would because money means little to me, she would then have earned the right and it wouldn't be such a transactional experience.
Sounds similar to my struggle. I am a homebody. I don't like to drink or party. I want to find another woman that is like me, but if they r like me, they r also homebodies. So how the fuck does a homebody meet another homebody? Lol. And I could always go to the bar but that's where Ur gonna find virtueless sluts. Ahhh, life. Ain't it a bitch.
I have to admit, I am somewhere between passive and initiative, but closer to passive, and I found inititive, intelligent women for myself in my lfie, I am pretty satisfied, especially with my current wife who is sometimes challenging to handle, but worths every minute of it.
Funniest comment on the internet today!It's a literary reference/play on words. "I am the Lorax, I speak for the trees." //en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Lorax
How would you then determine how skilled you are at something vs sucking at it? I would contest one must try "it"... I can assume I have no skill, at some task, but that is different all together. Even having skill at a task does not exclude one from sucking at it, yes? I would attest that one would need a measure of quantifying if MORE time should be allocated to some task, right? So, some type of mastery must have been attempted before a rating of "sucked at" can be affixed. Now, how much time should be allocated to what task, is up to you to determine.
+Joseph Lacerenza eh idk about all that. I get your sentiment and all but "sucking" at something just means you are not skilled. It really has no relation to if you've tried mastering jt...
I find it hard to say I suck at something I have never tried to master. Example, I suck at beer pong. This statement has the connotation that I had spent TIME/EFFORT trying to master said activity. If I did not spend time trying to master being a pick up artist, then I can not suck at it, right? If I never tried to master painting a picture, I can not then suck at painting.I can not "suck" at snowboarding if I do not try going down the ski hill with the board on my feet.I put the snowboard on my head and tried to go down the hill, man I suck at snowboarding! No, you do not suck at snowboarding, you were not attempting the task properly.Now, you can suck at beer pong ONLY if you spent any amount of effort trying to MASTER beer pong. I would say I suck at mastery, not beer pong, if I never tried to play the game to begin with.
To the first guy.. *Before you find your unicorn*, you need to *learn to
dumb yourself down*, which sounds weird but developing the emotional
intelligence of knowing when to banter, when to build rapport, when to
break rapport, etc is what you are lacking.
I'm very intellectual; I'm really passionate about history, philosophy,
technology, health, entrepreneurship etc but if I try to talk to *attractive
young girls* about these kinds of topics *they will lose interest in me so
fast*! There's several simple, yet entertaining subjects that make for good
conversation with attractive girls:
Pets & animals
Sexuality & kinks
Her family & your family
Travel experiences
Cultural difference & foreign languages
Fashion (what she is wearing, what you are wearing)
Movies and books she likes
Food & deserts
Dancing & partying
Booze & drugs
Breaking the law, getting arrested, times you almost died, etc
These are topics that actually move an awkward first date toward sex. Once
you seduce them and \spike their oxytocin you can drone on about nerdy
stuff over dinner all you want.
Asking girls about philosophy on the first date is going to get you... well
what you have been getting. *This is a lesson I learned the hard way as
well, so I feel your pain!*
+Joe11Blue "So, we have to settle for boring and intellectually dull mates in other words."What the guy said is true. Only 0.001% of women will not be turned of by intellectual talk. After I watched this video I know one thing: your chance of finding a woman for other reasons than sex is practically ZERO.
+Jonathan RoselandYou're a transhumanist, that right there tells me everything I need to know. You don't value women, you only value the physical release.
+lowkeyhustle +Joe11Blue +Johndiego95 For the longest time I looked to women I dated as a source of intellectual stimulation and I was always disappointed and the kind of women on my intellectual level are honestly just not attractive. This is a place where learning 'game' in my second language and dating cross culturally really actually taught me a lot, in Spanish I don't have the capacity to discuss a complex topic, so I'm limited in content to simpler conversation, this taught me to banter and vibe more.My (mostly male friends) are people that I can debate philosophy or transhumanism with all I want. Now I just look to the women I date to satisfy my physical needs and to help me relax. I really think this is healthier.
+lowkeyhustle imo they don't necesarry need to be at Ur level but as long as they take an interest in what u r interested in, it is ok. You can tell when a woman is trying. My ex used to always try to add to our conversations about philosophy and the world. Alot of the times she didn't know what she was talking about, but the effort was there and that was enough for me. Idk maybe I just never been with a woman that was truly at my level.
I mean, maybe go light on the intellectual subjects at first. But I'm a huge believer in qualifying women before actually seducing them. If you're just trying to date/fuck hot, stupid women, then sure - dumb yourself down. But if you want more, you're going to have to qualify them by bringing up topics you're interested in and seeing if they can keep up. Can't? Move on.
Well said! I couldn't agree more. However, once you have them emotionally invested, they never have a clue what you're talking about with true topics of interest. My goal now is to spark conversation upfront with unique and intellectual topics, if the female doesn't have interest then I just saved 3-4 months of time.
He was looking for a long term relationship, obviously the first thing you tell her probably shouldn't be about entrepreneurship, but I don't think you should dumb yourself down. I certainly wouldn't want a shallow chick as my partner, I want to date someone I can be proud of. I think you should always be yourself, but that's just me.
So, we have to settle for boring and intellectually dull mates in other words. I remember my feminist upbringing telling me that the men are the stupid ones ;-)
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A Crash Course in Economics
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(part 2) into DOE, farm subsidies, DOD, etc.; but you’re not interested in
that- you’re only interested in your pathetic straw-man, so you can try to
beat conservatives over the head with “why are you such a hypocrite”. That
way you don’t have to face the ugliness in the mirror: your rabid hatred of
other human beings, demonstrated in your comments. You are a small,
pathetic wretch- but nothing new. Small wonder your party has slaughtered
more people than all wars combined (Russia, China, Nazi).
You seem intelligent enough, and I agree with 99% of what you say- the
problem is you've been lied to about the nature of socialism. As an ideal
(ie as taught in schools) it does NOT exist. In practice (implemented) it
has been the cause of more slaughter and horror than all wars combined!! 50
Million people killed in China & USSR each, 10 Million in Germany (ie Nat.
*Socialism). Voting for liberals makes it worse, not better. THEY silence &
demonize their opposition- seeds of the next genocide!
Wow so because Bernake says it, that means it is true. Despite all of the
studies? From the St Louise Fed," We find no evidence that lenders
increased subprime originations or altered pricing around the discrete
eligibility cutoffs for the Government Sponsored Enterprises (GSEs)
affordable housing goals or the Community Reinvestment Act. Our results
indicate that the extensive purchases of risky private-label
mortgage-backed securities by the GSEs were not due to affordable housing
mandates."
This is basic common sense. I don't even see how people can refute it.
Demand drives the economy. Steve Jobs can make as many i-phones as he
wants. If there is nobody to buy them, then it was all for naught. During
the depression there was high supply but nobody could buy anything. We've
tried supply side economics and it hasn't worked, yet we continue to act
like it's going to work in a matter of time. I guess people who are against
this video don't understand the idea of the money multiplier
You never asked the question. Only a libtard can define productive as
"sending $ to fed gov". Your cherry picked stats are just a tired reuse of
bigoted & biased MM talking points. Like a pseudo-scientist, you leave off
major data points (like ND), claim that correlation = causation, then
expect me to justify your flawed arg. You equate dense urban with sparse
farm country, neglect population diffs and worst of all, lump all spending
into a single bucket. I could break it down for you (part 1)
So, if I understand correctly, if I as an individual lose my job (& run out
of money), this will cause a massive chain reaction that will layoff the
entire workforce of the world. Then with no jobs anywhere at all, everyone
will starve because there is no food because no one can go to the store to
buy food? You assume that nowhere in this chain is supply created before
demand, but how did the caveman live with no money and no job? How was the
first car invented since no one bought one before?
Did read "Debunking the CRA Myth – Again " from UNC? if you did you would
now that the National Bureau of Economic Research study has long been
debunked. Please read it. You don't even have to read the whole thing .
Just pages 5 though 8. It won't take long I promise. The CRA was used to
prevent red lining not give loans to people that can't afford them. If it
did we would have had a housing bubble in the 80's and 90's. Also Research
indicates only 6% of the high cost loans were under CRA.
You might think that your continued crass remarks about the blood of
soldiers makes you look edgy or something, but the reality is that it just
makes you look like a cold-hearted bastard. There is nothing original or
revolutionary about your hatred of people you don't understand- shows you
as the small, bigoted worm you are. Keep right on doing what you're doing.
It's refreshing to find a socialist who is honest about their disdain for
humanity, instead of pretentiously claiming to "coexist".
"just moved to another state" - your stupidity is showing. Moving = an
expensive proposition, doing it right you go to the cheapest environment
possible, which libtards made sure was NOWHERE inside USA. Your logic is so
flawed it's not worth responding to- *Of course* CA sends a lot in fed
taxes! Thanks to hollywood & silicon valley they'd be the #9 world economy,
AND YET their state budget is *SO* broken they put in massive tax hikes to
make up the difference. Does it hurt to FAIL so badly?
" Only a libtard can define productive as...." The same way Romney defined
the 47 percent of people that don't pay income taxes (most of which live in
southern red states) as unproductive right? " into DOE, farm subsidies,
DOD, etc" BINGO. We give you inbred clowns money to grow our food and your
states are still some of the poorest in the nation (MS AL LA ). This is not
only a liberal idea. I live in Maryland and many of my conservative friends
would never live in states like WV,MS,....lol
Um, did you mean to add a "did not" somewhere in there? Anyway, CRA lowered
lending standards, as according to a study done last year by the National
Bureau of Economic Research: sodahead .
com/united-states/surprise-surprise---clintons-cra-regulations-clearly-led-to-risky-lending/question-3406623/?link=ibaf&q=&esrc=s
You don't need a study to confirm this, just question what happens when the
CRA tells banks to lend to people who they normally would not lend to
because they can't afford it.
In the 1960's "Anti-racists" forced ALL and ONLY white countries to open
their borders to non-white immigration. Then "Anti-racists" forced ALL and
ONLY white people to "integrate" or face penalties for? being
"naziswhowanttokill6millionjews." Now "Anti-racists" are calculating that
ALL and ONLY white children will become minorities and eventually EXTINCT.
If "Anti-racists" did this to ALL and ONLY black countries, it would be
called a genocide. "Anti-racist" is a codeword for anti-white.
I am absolutely disgusted by the ongoing arrogance I see you spewing out.
Liberal Arts!!?? That is your basis for your over inflated ego?! LOL!!! How
does it feel to be the campus running joke? My favorite one: "What's the
difference between a lib arts major and a park bench? ... A park bench can
support a family!" Your anger makes more sense now- stuck in mom's
basement, smoking pot, reflecting on what a failure your life is... Yeah,
anyone would get angry in your position! What a coward.
"a republican Myth" Yet Bernanke copped to it, by saying the CRA encouraged
credit lenders to address "markets" they would have otherwised ignored. I
can quote him if you want. The CRA lowered lending standards, that's a
fact. The Crisis was a cross section of that, artificially low interest
rates and GRE subsidization. It kept people buying housing through the 2000
recession, giving a false impression housing doesn't lose value as much as
other assets, leading to overinvestment (bubble).
I never said California had the model economy. I just pointed out the fact
that California is a productive state. (ie sends more money to the federal
government) And most red states are not productive (ie get more money from
the federal government) If every state kept their tax dollars over the last
20 years cali would have a surplus and the south would be a 3rd world
nation.(not including texas) But you never answered the question, why do
red states take more from the federal government?
Spoken like a true troll for the safety of mommy's basement. And to think
you accused ME of using straw men! Someday when you get off pot, get a real
job, and actually have to start PAYing taxes, we'll see if you're so
enthusiastic about giving half of everything you earn over to the
government. Since you seem to have drawn your lines at "California is a
model economy" and "all conservatives are inbred welfare babies" it's
fairly obvious that you're not looking for a serious conversation.
There is no such thing that socialism in practice. Sure, many
good-intentioned people have attempted to implement it, but those efforts
CREATED THE SLAUGHTERS THAT I REFRENCED!!! You talk about totalitarianism
as though it can somehow be magically separated from socialism. The reality
is that "to each.. from each..." REQUIRES an administrator who distributes,
controls resources. And that person/group has absolute power over everyone
else in the system-- Voilà! I give you totalitarianism.
Also any education is better then no education. So if the whole state of MS
got art degrees I would be happy. As long as they are learning how to
think, I am happy. " socialist leads to totalitarianism" No it does not
dumbass. Norway, Sweden, Germany. U.K are not heading to totalitarianism
any time soon. And dumbass Keynesian economics not going to lead us to a
"murderous, destructive societies". It gave us the most growth this nation
as ever seen (1945-1973) the golden age of capitalism
You're still letting your views about "what would happen if (blank)...?" be
determined by the same liars who say that socialism is utopia! They are the
snakes, whispering that if you would just give them everything and they
will create a world were everyone is equal. This is a flat out lie, and it
will end in a bloodbath if enough people obey. Want a great example of what
I'm talking about- search youtube for J9HzwA7Oi6M. It's a short vid, but
the guy is better at expressing it then I am.
Thom Hartmann is true to facts. The hideous myths the Reagan Era far right
pushes to further fill their overloaded multi million dollar bank accounts
while killing the middle class are the reasons dislikes exist on this
incredibly epic video. Capitalism by itself will always lead to nothing
more than huge monopolies, no competition on the supply side, and most of
the money going to a very few super rich. We need a mix of Captialism &
Socialism with government by the people as the referee
Socialistic policies *destroyed* Detroit and made it far more economical
for businesses of all kinds (not just auto) to move elsewhere. You can try
to deny it all you want, but you're just burying your head in the sand.
Secondly, California is broke. It's not making the news anymore, but it's
nonetheless still true. There is a mass exodus of all who aren't a part of
the welfare state. Calling ANY Californian politician "Republican" is a
joke, like calling Bloomberg a "typical repub." LOL
Sorry to say something so hurtful to this nation full of indoctrinated
ignorants. I agree that the video is far from being an excellent one.
However when one reads such plenty of comments stemming from the same
ignorant prejudice instilled by the elite in the masses, one loses much
hope of awakening in the sheeples of this country. Go on slaves, sleeping
the sleep of the unaware. Don't be afraid of your slaughter. When that time
comes you will kiss obsequiously the hand of your butcher.
Reagan, as ScubaNate3610 points out, did "raise" tax revenues, because, he
knew how to compromise and Democrats would not allow passage of key
legislation without a raise. He also dropped the tax rates while closing
the loop-holes. If he had raised and closed the holes it would have had a
devastating effect. Tax rates were around 70% when he took over (for
highest brackets). They mostly paid much less because of the holes. He
lowered the rate, closed the holes, thus increasing revenue.
Socialism is an apt description of what they implemented- centralized
command-economies. Doesn't matter what they called themselves (but they
DID). "totalitarian does not equal socialist" .. but socialist leads to
totalitarianism. Just look at Stalin in Russia, Mao in China, Pol Pot in
Cambodia, Jong IL in N Korea... do I need to keep going? With all of these
examples of FAILED, murderous, destructive societies; and you're the
dumbass who's advocating we start one here... What a moron!
Even if you accept the premise of Kaynes that spending bolsters the
economy, Kaynes himself (and Tom here) said that you had to reduce levels
of spending and pay down the debt during prosperous years. Whether or not
Kaynes's theories work is a matter for debate, but even if correct, there
was a fatal flaw that once spending is increased, it hasn't been reduced.
People aren't going to spend when the country is so far in debt that their
is no confidence. We've applied Kayne too often.
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