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These measures would go somewhere toward avoiding misunderstandings early
and later in a relationship and therefore avoiding some of the traps. Gives
us much food for thought. Thanks again Sam ... :)
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Angie. I appreciate your videos though there is something I wish many who
talk of BPD, NPD etc would change. I don't mean this in a nasty way at all.
There is a myth, meme, etc that is perpetuated that men are the perps when
it comes to NPD whereas women are always the victims. I'm sure you don't
ascribe to this. At least it seems that way. My hope is that instead of
consistently using he or him, it would be good if "him or her" is used.
Also the "NPD abuser" would be another way to go.
There is a therapist by the name of Tara Palmatier who specializes in men
who have been the victims of NPD, as I have been, and she says this myth
exists and needs to be revealed as such.
On a side point, physical abuse is just about equal between the genders per
the statistics though verbal abuse is skewed with 70 percent of the abusers
being female. Men don't report it because of social stigma, police don't
take male abuse by a female seriously and our society for decades says it
is okay for a man to be struck by a female so we accept it. There are other
reasons as well. Anyway just thought I would give you my thoughts, no
animosity at all is intended.
Bill
Angie.
A p.s. It as been one and a half years since I was discarded and the gambit
of thoughts and feelings you describe ring true in my case. The victim
believes in loyalty, love, compassion and positive empathy, thus the cold
nature of the discard leaves us with this incredulous shock. According to
Dr T. we project our values onto a person that is incapable of such bonding
because they convinced us they were such a person. Whew! Then the discard.
Your analogy of the trail runners was brutal but important because that is
the cold reality that we must accept. Thought it was kind of funny though
because those are her favorite athletic shoes. Thanks for the
memories...lol
All the videos you've posted are great, but they would be even better if
the text didn't disappear so fast that I have to back it up. And I am not a
slow reader. Hope you don't mind the suggestion.
Can Two Narcisist Establish a Long Term, Stable Relationship?
There are two main types of narcissists, if each member of the couple belongs to a different type, they will be ably of establishing a successful relationship.
Sadly I am a predominantly somatic narcissist with a long term eating
disorder who is also a serial dater of cerebral narcissists in the form
of older, high profile men.
What ends such a great union in my life are always the same elements.
*MY continual restlessness + my abject refusal to EVA commit to anyone +
my hasty departure.
*THEIR raging jealousy + their insecurity regarding their importance to
me + their
inability to stop me seeing others which is something I forever state
upfront with all men.
Narcissist, bigget people, isnt that what the one world movement wants? The
push for one to think of oneself & oneself only is humongous! I think this
narsicist is in everyone who has turned their back on religion. Feminism
brought on by Satanism has made narcissistic women & their sons
+joanne Nilsson Religious narcissism is the #1 tool of control a narcissist will use against a victim. The narcissist is in everyone who turned their back on themselves and humanity, together which create the potential for one's spiritual existence to be bathed in love or the light or whatever. Whether they ascribe a religion, philosophy or feminist dogma isn't as important as how it connects one to themselves and themselves to others and others to everyone. Oprah Winfrey and Angela Jolie are hardcore feminists - but hardly Satan's children. On the other hand I don't need to point out how many men and women who stand firmly in the hands of religion are hardly altruistic, not pious, mentally imbalanced, abusive, bullying and violent tyrants. If society has turned it's back on anything important it would be wisdom, compassion and balance... none of which exist in the narcissist on any level. All of which religions promise but rarely provide to the masses as the delivery is filtered with mere humans.
Yea the discarding is definitely the hardest part. The relationship I had
with this woman wasn't very long but it's the way it ended so abruptly and
so cruel. I've had break ups before but the way she just threw me away like
I meant nothing to her. I even asked her during the break up did she fake
all of the intrest she had in me. The closer I got to her and wanted a
deeper intimacy the more she kept pushing me away. I honestly saw red flags
and being around her I felt like an object instead of an actual person.
+Mustang46liters I went through the same exact thing. I honestly thought she was the love of my life as we seemed to have this deep connection, staring into eachother's half-lidded eyes for hours and just floating in that loving head-space. Eventually, I realized that my needs were not being addressed. I tried so damn hard to make it all work, to care for her and to be very upfront about what I want in a relationship. In the end, she just didn't understand why she had to put in any effort and finally broke up with me with this air of righteous indignation like it was her who was wronged. I should have seen the signs: her parents were neglectful, especially her dad was a cold jerk to me when I met him. She was the first person I loved in this way. I'll never forget that extreme high nor will I forget the extreme low of disillusionment and abandonment she made me feel. Through time and research, I've learned to feel pity for her and hope that she becomes self-aware and realizes the cycle of self-abuse that she is lost in. She hurt me, but I will grow from it whereas she will likely remain the same. Best wishes <3
I can't take anymore. I am too brokenhearted to tell my story right now.
married 20 yes to a narc. , just figured it put in the last year, or
less...need a job to get out. anyone know of support in Mass. ?
+Abigail Johnson In the same position. 10 yrs married to a narc and want out now. I was watching Anne Frank and invited him although I know these emotional/motivational movies aren't his thing. He complained every minute of it, until the huge woman beat her up and gobbled what was supposed to be her final meal. At that point, he jumped up and rejoiced laughing, "Finally, this is the best part of this long, boring show." You'll get through this. Have faith but be careful because you understand now that there is nothing you can do to make him better.
I can't take anymore. I am too brokenhearted to tell my story right now.
married 20 yes to a narc. , just figured it put in the last year, or
less...need a job to get out. anyone know of support in Mass. ?
+Thunder Welltravelled be careful not to let him eat your soul away...i am now a newly narcissistic after leaving my husband a selfish emotional vampire lol ,using the method to avoid getting used or dumb..i now have special bag full of checklist and note book studying each and every male attitude i read book to learn how to become persuasive and even manage to convince myself that teaching my sons the art of becoming calculating and manipulative will make them better smarter human than any other and no living soul could ever use them..IF YOU THINK THAT you are becoming like me plz find solution, read / watch all the video in here plz dnt become empty just like me because this method will only make you feel empty and needing more emotion..thks
+Abigail Johnson do not dump him until you sort out your financial life and start building a social life for yourself...until than feed him with all the emotion he require from you...remenber to slowly cut him off (emotionally) once you are ready to move on...PLZ DNT GO BACK because you will be PUNISHED for leaving, he will say and do all to have you back than do somthing to make you feel as bad as he felt when you left..than his final action is and will be to GET RID OF YOU!!!! be wise and remember the goal for him is to WIN WIN WIN.....
Put value in your person's feelings. And notice that they are careful with your feelings too. God is infinite, and has deeper love for you than anyone in the world.