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Overly sensitive to criticism

A brief therapy aimed at reducing your sensitivity to being criticized, a costly handicap. Just relax and allow the message to go in to your subconscious. Play as ...

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Danman Mandan commented on 19 Oct 2015

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Loren E Parks commented on 15 Sep 2008

As you get older, this should diminish. Play the video several times. You may still hurt, but you'll get over it more quickly. That's what has happened to me. Lots of stuff just b rushes off. Remember, when you hurt you're letting someone else control you. Loren

Dany Danish commented on 06 Sep 2008

iam over sensitive to many things.specially when criticize.i got angry easily.hope this will work..

Loren E Parks commented on 23 Oct 2010

@Splangy1 It should work. If it was a person, do the disconnect from a person. Loren

R0uMazA commented on 05 Jul 2009

Thank-you very much leparks,your VDS do actually make me feel good. :)

Loren E Parks commented on 23 Oct 2010

I'm glad if you were helped. Some free things are really good. Loren

tania questel commented on 23 Oct 2010

Loren, your philanthropy is much appreciated and helpful. TQuestel

Ben Alquist commented on 15 Sep 2008

Im hurt easily, i try not to show it tho. wrong or just normal?

shockingeyes777 commented on 27 Apr 2009

again: not working, only getting a huge headache!

Danman Mandan commented on 18 Oct 2015

awwwwwwwww why do i find old people so cute

Loren E Parks commented on 05 Jul 2009

I'm glad you're being helped. Loren

Ben Alquist commented on 16 Sep 2008

Great advise thanks so much!

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Grace Trivino commented on 12 Aug 2014

Wow I thought that it was just me. Well with the clothing at least if it doesn't feel right I don't wear it, which really sucks cuz they tend to be the most awesome shirts or pant I have. But I never thought of myself as sensitive I just get a little more idk... But I'm not sensitive

Katja Fantastishk commented on 01 May 2016

cipralex/escitalopram helps me with conroling my emotions actually. (antidepressants). It's amazing actually, how much more in control of my experiences I feel when I use antidepressants. :)

Hamsti11 commented on 09 Aug 2014

Acupuncture can help : less extreme useless emotions (in my case).

David Ho commented on 12 Nov 2015

hate wearing wool so much

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Hunter Bares commented on 16 Jul 2012

and after all the years of me trying to tell you this, you finally get it! love ya bro

Emotional Sensitivity Related to Asperger's - Personal Example

Just sharing a personal experience. I don't want to start a debate on e-cig etiquette. Not looking for pity, either. Logically, I understood there was no need to get ...

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Sandra Roecker commented on 19 Feb 2016

If I were you I wouldn't let that jerk bully you and either TRY to ignore him and keep doing what you're doing (which wasn't wrong and as you said, accepted there) or tell him that he not only should be the one to step outside with his FARTS but also with his rude, disrespectful MOUTH.

Hannah Riedel commented on 19 Feb 2016

Haha I wish I could say that stuff! I logically know that he is the one with the problem, but I can't help but get upset. I can never find the words when I need them. If I leave the situation, I am perfectly fine. I just can't be around people like that. I'm unavoidably emotional, haha.Thanks for the great comments. :)

Ruby Gem commented on 28 Dec 2015

I'm so sorry this happened to you. I really hate when people are judgmental like that. They talk at you rather than talking to you, "with" you I should say would be more understanding, and with less hate in their hearts. People don't know how to express things in a kind manner. I'm sure if he would've talked to you politely about it, you two could've reached a common ground. That's awful you got so embarrassed in a place you're normally comfortable in. I would feel the same way. Keep your chin up beautiful.

Ruby Gem commented on 28 Dec 2015

+Ruby Gem Oh and I also understand trying to constantly not offend people. That's a big one for me. I've had to get over some of that recently with my coming out on certain topics. But generally, I try to be as polite as possible.

Ken Standing commented on 03 Nov 2015

I know exactly what you mean. I've had that feeling all my life. I can recount incidents from when I was five years old, maybe earlier. ..... desperation to be accepted and liked and a searing anguish at getting told off. Perhaps , constantly feeling distant and lonely, it is about having a permanent insatiable longing for - well - love. And anything which suggests one is at fault and so not liked produces that extended electric agony.My doctor suddenly told me I was taking too long telling him about various things I thought were maybe not right .... health etc ......shouted at me. I staggered out of the office/practice place and wanted to go down to the nearby train station and jump in front of a train. I can't forget these moments - they come back perpetually as painful memories. I think I'll only get over them when I die ..... slightly depressingly ..... Anyway thanks for the video Hannah.

Hannah Riedel commented on 03 Nov 2015

yep, sounds very familiar.... <3

himbeer commented on 25 Oct 2015

I think it is actually very likely that he "singled you out", that he generally sees more malice in things which are innocent or at best just inconsiderate. He somehow really "pegged you as a bitch" as you say (not necessarily the very weird bitch, but still ...). Many people develop some kind of resentment against Asperger people, and the worst are people who are themselves on the autism spectrum. Ideally it would be good not to take it too personally (or only insofar, as he might indeed feel attracted to you without realizing it). How much are you able to relate to similar experiences when there are confrontations like this? Because I guess that helps with moderating or avoiding a freakout. Some people with a more spiritual background might give the advise to have pity with him; understanding his background better, helps with standing his reaction and having pity. As an Asperger, you have difficulties understanding him as a "psychosocial system" (I give credit to the "Empathy Imbalance Hypothesis of Autism"). so the best is to develop a certain kind of general indulgence towards reactions like this. Then you are probably right that you care too much about avoiding any confrontation. In general many Aspergers are very conflict-averse, and it is understandable, because it is harder for you to handle conflicts. But conflicts are in fact quite O.K., or even necessary, and it is not good to try too much to avoid them. Maybe you could tune yourself in taking little conflicts, in particular with strangers or loose acquaintances, more like an exercise in dealing with conflicts, or even in a ludic way. Whatever "technique" you might use, I am sure that you will be able to react more calmly to such situations in some years. The last and maybe most important point: This strong reaction of yours might have had a much more positive effect on this guy than would have had a seemingly more appropriate reaction. He overreacted - you overreacted, so in a certain sense your reaction was an adequate response. So you should not worry too much. Also, because after all your reaction was the best you could do under the given circumstances and with you being like you are.

Hannah Riedel commented on 27 Oct 2015

I AM SICK OF UNSOLICITED ADVICE! no one likes that! like I'm some helpless little deer. I was just trying to show others on the spectrum that they are not alone. I'm not looking for help or pity! It's insulting.

Hannah Riedel commented on 27 Oct 2015

+himbeer It always made sense to me. I'm sick of people assuming I don't know what I'm talking about because I use my own words.

himbeer commented on 27 Oct 2015

+Hannah Riedel The Empathy Imbalance Hypothesis of autism I referred to says that "people with autism have a deficit of cognitive empathy but a surfeit of emotional empathy. The behavioral characteristics of autism might be generated by this imbalance and a susceptibility to empathic overarousal." (quote from the abstract of the article, //opensiuc.lib.siu.edu/tpr/vol59/iss3/9/).From a phenomenal approach, it makes sense to distinguish between two types of Aspergers, the first is "susceptible to empathic overarousal" and the second is rather alexithymic. But you could see the alexithymic type as a more severe form of autism, where less attention is given to humans mostly because humans and their emotions (and complexity in general) are considered as too overwhelming and get therefore largely blocked out (with the help of details that provide safety). Plus there might be some secondary hardening processes going on to "better" deal with an overkill of emotions, in particular in a tough environment. Does it now make more sense to you?

Hannah Riedel commented on 27 Oct 2015

Ahhhhhh you have me wrong! I'm the other kind of Asperger's! I actually have an abundance of empathy. There are both linear and abstract people on the spectrum. We are "impaired" oppositely, but the results are the same. Extreme broad thinking (me) vs. Extreme detail thinking. Both are recognized. Females often present differently than males and I am a prime example.

eibeelee gets fit commented on 25 Apr 2015

you are me.... ive been watching a lot of your videos, and i hope i don't come off a s a creeper...but ive never heard anyone talk that just reminded me so much of myself..lol

Hannah Riedel commented on 15 Jun 2015

+eibeelee gets fit I know the feeling :P hello me

autism spectrum disorder commented on 02 Feb 2015

Hannah, first off I want to say to you that it is Ok to be the way you are. I am like you in that I am very sensitive to what I consider or perceive to be negative remarks. There are not enough sensitive and empathetic people out there--becoming less & less it seems. What I have come to realize and accept is that people like the person you encountered, are lacking social skills in public settings. He has a problem. Not you. If you had to do it over again, do you think it would make a difference telling this guy that it's just water vapour? Not at all. That is not why he did it. I call people like him social bullies (in crowds-they like an audience- only thing is, most people with a brain don't like his type). All we can do is control our own situation and do as you did---just leave. I will add that as you continue to mature, it will get better. You'll become thicker skinned and start to understand people better. You said it yourself: there were better ways to handle it and he chose to be rude and abrasive instead of politely & quietly asking. Never doubt that for a moment. It is people like him who will always be socially lacking in public, yell out, be crude, swear, big-mouth, whatever. I'd much rather steer clear of types like that. They are miserable and angry inside but cannot see the reflection of that in the mirror. You are kind, sensitive and extremely honest. Those are strong personal characteristics that I would rather have in a friend any day! Oh and BTW, your videos are the best I have come across so keep on posting them. Your honesty in talking about Aspergers is so helpful. It is helping me reach the students I work with. Awesome! Thank you!

badlydrawnkid6 commented on 07 Feb 2015

+Hannah Riedel I think it was smart of you to leave. autism spectrum disorder, was right. That guy does have problems. He's likely a psychopath the way you described him. Since he sounded like a psychopath I know all too well. You mentioned he thinks everyone wants a fight. He was likely trying to pick one with you. It's okay to cry. I'd rather you have cried than give him a comeback. I fear if you stayed, his behavior with you could've escalated. I know a guy, who would say stuff like that to me. One day he came up to my friends and I. I just left to avoid trouble. My friends were so mad that I left, that they stopped talking to that guy. I least expected that because he was a good friend of theirs.

Hannah Riedel commented on 03 Feb 2015

+autism spectrum disorder Thank you so much for all your kind words. :) You're right, HE's the one with the problem. I honestly think that just leaving was the best option; he's probably used to people getting angry at him and probably almost wanted me to. I'm hoping that seeing my face turn bright red and me staring at the floor clearly holding back tears was enough to make him realize (if only for a second) that he needs to tone it down a bit. If not, oh well. I'm hoping it gets better as I get older, but I feel as though I already do understand (for the most part) people like him and the majority of people in general.....but maybe i just need to let it sink it that many of them do not understand themselves. :P

Feedz T commented on 30 Jan 2015

hey hannah can I just say something? I used to be similar to you, hyper sensitive. If people ever honked their car etc I would kinda freak. And I know a lot of people that are like that. There is nothing wrong with it, but I don't think it's to do with Aspergers. I think that you CAN largely grow out of it. Now I am at stage where I really like myself, and its crazy saying this but I feel like i've really removed almost 90% of my Aspergers like symptoms. I can talk freely with people at a bar, when people honk me I just smile and take my time, or if i'm angry I flip em off. I really think that your reaction is because you are really emotionally frail, there is no need to feel bad, you should never feel bad. Just remember always that for as many "rude" people there are many more "caring" people and that feeling bad doesn't serve you in anyway. Granted you cant just let go of your feelings. But maybe you can clear your mind, next time it happens. You see your feeling bad has to do with your perception of YOURSELF, because in reality that guys perception of you doesn't matter, it's to do with him. But he triggered a bad reaction in you... Most normal people would feel bad/angry/annoyed about it. Trust me you can completely remove this from your life and be 100 times happier all the time. :)

Feedz T commented on 01 Feb 2015

+Hannah Riedel you're welcome :) I hope for the best for you and me both.

Hannah Riedel commented on 31 Jan 2015

THANK YOU. this advice is golden, the first advice I've received in a WHILE that wasn't something I already knew or wasn't applicable to my situtiaon. Why don't they teach this? I was taught that self-confidence and self-esteem are the same thing, and I've never been one of those "I hate myself, I suck and don't deserve anything good" kind of people, so I assumed I had a great self image. Turns out, I have self esteem out the A $$ and little to no self confidence. Its time for baby steps, I guess. Well, I have self confidence in the small talk department....just not the confrontation department. and I know EXACTLY what you mean when you say that you used to think things were more serious than they are. To me, if someone says anything negative to me, I assume it's very serious even though they don't think anything of it. They don't necessarily hate me even though it's hard for me to understand that. Being raised in a family that never pointed out each others flaws or confronted each other at all (unless it was my mom yelling at me for going behind her back, haha) probably didn't help my perception of what is a "big fight" and what isnt.

Feedz T commented on 30 Jan 2015

+Hannah Riedel I think I get you. It's great that you are self-confident! I have a lot, A LOT of thoughts on this whole thing. To me, self-confidence is what you've proven to yourself that you can do, for example if you've been riding a bike since you were 3 and if I were to show you a bike now, you'd probably jump on without any problems. Thats what I call effortless, "naturalised" self-confidence. It comes with real experience only. But then there is also self-esteem, which is what you think you OUGHT to be able to do. When a persons self-esteem is not aligned with their self-confidence they are dissatisfied. For example, maybe you thought that you SHOULD be able to promptly retort when someone "attacks" you, and then since you couldn't, you feel frustrated. Your self-esteem is often controlled by outside forces like the media. Most people's self-esteem is distorted from reality, either inflated or deflated and as a result such people can often be harsh on themselves. And another thing that I think you might like to know, I really believe (from my experience) that most people have a deep innate intelligence, both emotional and logical. Im certain that when that comment was made to you, that on some level you knew what to say. But on top of this base layer are years of learning that come in the form of habits. So your natural reaction was panic. But really, if the panic never came, you'd have said right away "its just water". I know how you feel though, because for a long time I just couldn't bear the thought of displeasing others and avoided confrontation. But then i realised that these confrontations are no big deal. For years I was making everything a big deal and very serious. When in reality people get in fights over stupid things and even become friends again later. So I thought where are these feelings coming from? Why am I upset here over nothing while the people who made me this way are roaming about free and happy, like nothing ever happened. And the answer is "they DIDN'T make me this way" they have no idea about the consequences of their actions (and if they did and continue to do it then they are plain sociopaths), but in reality that local guy probably has no idea what his words do/did. In that sense HE is more autistic than us! But my point is, I came to realize that I have autonomy over my feelings, I can choose who can affect me and who can't. I think this is an emotional skills that most "normal" people develop naturally and early on. It can be learnt though. If I am talking to someone at a bar and they become rude or something, I just move on and I am still 100% happy, genuinely. And I talk to the next person with the same vigour and delight. And it comes from this ability to NOT THINK about something and just choose to disregard it. Just try this, at any moment, try to access the most deepest and truest feeling/thought you are having. For example, as I type this, I genuinely am thinking that maybe I should talk less now, because this is such a long post and I don't want to make a bad impression on you as a know it all. Thats my thought. Now you have a thought/feeling, right at this moment as you read this. Recognise it and focus on it. keep practicing that and soon you'll be "normal" or even better than. Anyways /rant over. You're welcome :) and keep doing what you're doing.

Hannah Riedel commented on 30 Jan 2015

Seriously thank you for this comment though, it's provoking some fun thoughts. :P

Hannah Riedel commented on 30 Jan 2015

Although I do understand what you are saying, and It can be applied to other scenarios. I am 100% comfortable in my own skin and I know that this isn't a self confidence issue (unless you count confidence in my ability to verbally stick up for myself promptly)

Hannah Riedel commented on 30 Jan 2015

Hey thanks for the advice. There's only one confusing thing with me. I love myself an have all kinds of innate self confidence. :) However, in that specific situation, I was more upset that I was put on the spot in front of all the other customers. It's not a self confidence issue with me, it's more of me panicking because I have no words ready when someone says that to me. I need time to process before I can react. So I get really frustrated that I can't defend myself immediately. I can have all of the self confidence in the world, but if someone confront s me and I can't think of any words in time, then I just have to walk away and usually end up crying as more of a release of frustration than a self pity thing. If someone flips me off while I'm driving I don't get upset because I can just wave at them and smile and I win.

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Holy Cow commented on 23 Apr 2016

good advice. I have a low self-esteem, it seemed like almost every experiene I have had in life people have strongly insulted me in one way or another. I can't understand why humans go so wrong.

raivons commented on 22 Jun 2012

very good video ,thx Jack

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Sheila Bee commented on 19 Sep 2013

Unfortunately we get so many questions that we can't answer them all, and often we will skip over the ones where we have already covered a similar one in the past, I don't know about yours specifically, but if we haven't done it, you could try looking through older videos and see if we have already covered that general topic. Thanks for sending in! And HUGS to you!

vesperholly commented on 20 Sep 2013

I love it. I have been accused of being "too sensitive" so many times. Especially love the bit about chemical combinations and just because person A can not react to something doesn't mean that person B is wrong for reacting. Thank you!!!

ohitsbren commented on 19 Sep 2013

You guys literally have some of the best advice videos! It really opens my mind to so many different options and ways of thinking, and I really think it's great that you get to kind of solve the issue from many a view point :)

Sarah Deming commented on 22 Oct 2013

I like Korean Music...and I also love the K-Dramas. Everyone makes fun of me for watching the k-Dramas and listening to the music. It makes me want to hide my enjoyment.

Sheila Bee commented on 24 Sep 2013

Korean Pop music. You should google it - it's kinda...different - than US pop, just a little more...colorful? Lol. It's pretty cool. It has a big American following.

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Sheila Bee commented on 23 Oct 2013

Don't hide enjoyment! Fight the hipsters! Enjoyment is enjoyable!!! search for the dinz video about liking stuff being cool...