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+Warrior Bushido No problem, glad to have helped you. I must say your videos are eye opening. My mother used to get me to break peoples hearts in my teens and enjoyed seeing the fallout. Nothing you could have done. She is possessed and convinced that everyone is the problem except the mother, while the inverse is true. Your videos give me a different angle to the situation as I am sorry to say that I was once a pawn in a similar game. I was only a teenager though so I cut myself some slack.

+Warrior Bushido I still have issues with intimacy. I hope they will wear off. I am conditioned to believe that people resemble her. Being with her mother is a comfort zone. Her mother has infantalized her to the point of no return. It is hard to break away, takes many situations where you confirm that not everyone is the same. These kinds of mothers turn their young against men because they are jealous of daughters actually receiving love. So they want to possess the daughter and to convince her that men are scum and to be used.

+Warrior Bushido Wow... Straight from the mouth of someone who's been there. Thank you is not enough. This is an older video, but even just... Going back to the memory, my heart is pounding slightly. It was just so... Weird. Strange... The whole thing is so f***king strange - the confusion... I got notification the a consent for divorce decree was entered, which means I'll be separated from these people forever soon. They'll try and screw me financially but... I'll NEVER have to feel this way again. Sleeping on the couch while your wife is in your bedroom with her mother at 23.... Jesus.Thank you again. Better than anything I've read on the topic. I hope your suffering eases my friend...

I'd almost consider forcing ayahuasca down her throat, but that would be disrespectful to the ayahuasca...Iboga, perhaps...

+QuartuvLarry She's a chronic user - but that's not the issue really. She's diagnosed BiPolar I w/ Psychotic Features, and my psych doc thinks, based on how she's behaved, that she's Borderline & on the narcissistic spectrum. He said he can medicate the BiPolar, the psychotic features - but personality disorder takes introspection, hard work and something special to really conquer. I thought she had that in her, but she repeatedly showed me that she can't. Even to this day in the divorce dealings, but that's just another story.

+hairbandfan1967 Apparently, many trolls are narcissists. Sad really.

+Nerdy Nett You are either or troll or one very sick, narcissistic individual. Get help.

+Nerdy Nett Stating the obvious, there is two sides to the story - so, getting upset that you only see one side of it here and calling this video an 'act' - not sure what point you're trying to make with this. I have a problem that her mother isn't taking care of her 10-year diagnosed serious mental illness which came up in marriage. So yes, I am bitter that her relationship with her mother was a major obstacle in recovery/stabilization for her. Throughout the video I speak on the things I did wrong as well, so of course I don't think I'm the 'only victim'. I am however, the only one working on myself.Sounds like maybe you've had a history with a bad relationship and am seeing the other guy in what I'm saying here. If that's true, sorry about that. This is why I've moved away from personal information, because there's just no way to explain the situation entirely.

Have you read Pete Walker on the 4 Fs and CPTSD you really should I never really looked into NPD and I really believe I have CPTSD due to mother NPD lack of Father figure Ex wife BPD/NPD and since I never looked into emotional issues I let my walls down after a year split with my now wife. The first time U never allowed my walls down. Until this year. I think I have been in one constant Flashback starting around March Its been hell brother

+Goraiders75 Happy to oblige, you make good points and I wouldn't want to keep that from anyone. Hopefully blocking her was enough, also edited my response to not 'feed the troll' so to speak. Also a bit ashamed of my reaction anyhow.

+Homunculus Mandrake no worries if you can just deleate his section and leave mine upnfor other readers up to you of course

+Goraiders75 You're right. I should probably delete this thread and block this person. I don't like censoring people, but you're right. I fear the paranoia that goes with waking up to narcissism so I'm always remiss to dub someone a narc... but I think you're right. Sorry for the misunderstanding before here, and thank you for the wisdom.

+Homunculus Mandrake cuz there are NARCS that read and watch videos and in order tO GET ANY type of narc supply they will do anything even make stupid comments good luck in court and always remember we are worth more then we feel\think about ourselfs and we are way less evil and violent and vendictive then what the Narc portrays us to be :)

+Goraiders75 I see what you're saying. I tried replying to you both but figured replying to you both would be notified, and everything save for the part about the lack of truth/3 sides was in response was directed to the OP.Thank you for clarifying your point, particularly in a calm manner, as I wasn't able to tell if someone was jumping on that bandwagon of I'm an act - which was extremely hurtful. Apologies if that seemed towards you, I'm absolutely fried waiting for this divorce to be over.I am certainly not in a good place and am reactive - having to hear her voice after what will be nearly 4 months of silence soon is going to be hell. Nerdy Nett is not the first female to attack me, and I still don't get why this is the case.

+Homunculus Mandrake i do not believe for one second you were acting let me clarify What I mean is in a situation every individual due to past events upbringing and so on develop filters on all 5 sences so say me and you and a hidden video tape were at the grocery store and say it got robbed well what I seen heard smelled felt and tasted would be different then yours and the only one that would be spot on is the hidden video tape AKA "truth" sorry I dont mean to cause negativity or disbelief. now in the case of NPD what they "recall" would be way off base of the camera where mine and your story would closely resemble the camera. Hope this clarifies my intentions.

+Goraiders75 I don't suppose the original comment is at all interested in the black and white droves of proof, or the diagnoses from psychiatrists - or the in-absentia remarks from our marriage counselor who was on her side up until she left once I showed her the things I found out about her - about being a sociopath.You know, enjoying torturing people. Hurting people, getting off on it. Things that a sociopathic narcissist does, or a narcopath.None of this matters in a no-fault divorce state, so I am money fucked. I'm not sure if this attitude comes from a 'men don't get abused' mentality - but it's complete bullshit. 

there is always 3 sides to any story Side ASide Band the truth

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+Oliver revilO Antecedent or precursor? It can also be referred to as discriminative stimulus (behavior science terminology).

+Kitty Ponce There are two main theories out there: nature and nurture. That the Narcissist either didn't receive enough love, or was spoiled rotten--and/or that there is something "off" with their brain chemistry. Either way, these people have problems that we can't fix--and it's not healthy for us to stick around and try. All we can do is to wish them light and love...from a place where we know that we are able to be safe and sane. For those of you who are deeply compassionate beings, please do not sink yourself to save someone else. <3

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+Sara Lehane Thank you so much for your help.

+Elizabeth Lavet Thank you so much for your help.

+zinat quazi Understanding helps defuse a lot of hurt. Keep searching the internet and watching videos on NPD, take what you want, get general ideas. It is my understanding the person with NPD fears intimacy and rejection so they set it up where they leave you if you are getting too close (see Sam Vaknun videos). The fact you are crushed is more Narcissistic supply for the person with the shame based personality disorder and helps him leave. The fact you would want him when he treats you bad is just another reason to devalue you, have less respect or desire for you. This is a double edged sword, he needs pats on the back but if you give them to him, especially too much, too ready to please, then he looses all respect and has disdain for you. There are few times that the NPD actually has the ability to reason and have a relationship but he knows how to play like he does in order to manipulate or when he is feeling magnanimous or generous, when things are going his way. He simply cannot afford real intimacy, it is not about you, put your ego aside. Around a person with NPD you cannot have expectations, if you do you are in trouble. Part of the time they get their much needed feelings of grandiosity from putting down others. If you are feeling hurt you are feeding him. If you encounter him, don't engage him, quickly and politely dismiss yourself from his area- quickly, without engaging him. he is an ex.. Just like married men should be off limits, so should your partner that left you. Examine your behavior for future relationships, get counseling on how to stay in contact with your own self worth and how to fight fair etc. If you have identified many Narcissitic traits in another person, realize there is often lack of reason, lack of rationality, extremes, and mostly that IT IS ABOUT HIM, not about you, except you are picking the person and staying. Get counseling. Find a counselor that is actually helping you and listen to your gut. In the future if he needs more Narcissistic supply he may come back where he found it before, remember this is conditional. Watch everything you can on the internet and YouTube with an understanding heart. Ask yourself what it is about you that cannot accept your ex has a shame based personality disorder and that you have to make it about you and your ego instead. What looked like love in the very beginning never was. Also remember he has a right to what he thinks and feels, everyone does. Honor his feelings and wishes and go out and find happiness in life. If you cannot be happy, find joy in life, at anytime without a partner you need to do some exploration. Connection with a higher power can replace the ego of self, ACOA (adult children of alcoholics) and co dependence anonymous meetings can be very helpful.

+zinat quasi hey it can take years to recover from this insidious type of abuse. It feels sad and cold and dark and lonely. Eventually you will realise that all the emptiness you feel is a sense of the loss of parts of yourself that you, without knowing it, allowed the Narc to covet and pretend where his/hers. Believe in yourself again. It requires work and effort. Realise this and begin the journey of self nurturing and reclaiming gently all the joy and delight that was sucked out of you by the narc. You are special and can breath back in your sense of self worth. Anger and saddness will need to be processed. Find a holistic psychologist if you are really floundering and if you just split from a Narc then you certainly deserve the extra support. For some of us it can mean the difference between life and death.

+DAnna Clark DillonHard lesson for you and the animals.  Run or die might be a good saying for everyone in your situation.  He might not have consciously known it, but it sounds like he was telling you what to do, run away or get run over.  If he  kills the animals trying to teach them a lesson in order to "keep them safe" then he did not succeed (in keeping them safe) and did not make a wise choice of teaching method or wise choice in manner to keep them safe.  It is my understanding you are saying essentially this and realize the absurdity of what he did.  Sounds like a miserable situation to be around. I am wisihng for you good things, wise and kind friends.

Hi that is a great analysis - the  critters where the illustrations of his treatment.He taught dogs and cats to stay away for the vehicles by driving at  them fast. They learned to run or die. A behavior that proved his point even in the face of my objections. He said I was being ridiculous and didn't care about their safety.   

+DAnna Clark Dillon It is true that they have to be right, cannot be wrong (they are all knowing, grandiose) , but I also think just the act of being challenged or not getting what they want can be so threatening to a person with a shame based personality disorder that they can go into a rage, I call it an adult temper tantrum. It is very hard to reason with someone that cannot afford, emotionally, to be wrong or to shift their thinking. Some people say they handled it by making everything his/her idea. This is not a life and cannot be maintained in all situations, as you point out.. I miss being able to have rational calm discussions with the NPD and hate being afraid that simply my expression of my beliefs may lead to a blow up. I think your realization would have had to come sooner or later. Personally, I want to learn how to spot these people earlier, and will adjust my commitment, expectations, and reactions accordingly in the future. I want to be able to say calmly, to anyone, that I find their behavior of XYZ hurtful, threatening, unacceptable, irrational, etc. and be OK with my life as I see fit. When actions are driven by self focus the person cannot and will not always make a rational or responsible decision. To realize the partner you have paired with for support and mutual growth just may not be able to be supportive of you any more than he was for the horses has to be a little disconcerting. This mental and/or physical illness is so well disguised it can take fighting for someone or something else to realize something is really wrong here.

+Neicole M If he's not willing to live a life of honesty and transparency, then there is no relationship--there is you clinging to hope that he will change, and him running the streets doing whatever he wants to do and then hiding it.

+Neicole M It's impossible to have anything other than a healthy relationship with someone who has no true accountability for their actions, and who doesn't value others. I'm sure he thinks he can fix himself without therapy, but will he is the real question. Manipulative people tend to think they can do anything, but their actions always show otherwise. (((hugs))) to you.

The things hes done to me and the way hes humiliated me and disrespected me he would never tolerate if reversed. I cannot have conversation with men without having to explain every detail. He used to require that I let him go through my phone but never could I his. He leaves for hours without being accountable but im gone for 4 min too long hes calling. I pay every bill while he provides groceries and thats it. But of course he says all this will change. He will give more money and spend more time with his oh so important family. But not important enough to go to therapy.

+Narcissist Support That is the most fitting phrase in the history of fitting phrases - crazy makers. It took me months to unravel my mind back and understand what happened. It's like you can't see it until you get some space to think again! Lol.

+Karen Rutherford Yes, the double standard is SO frustrating. It's some of the most crazy making behavior I've ever experienced in my life.

@ZigZagOfficialTV we do things because they benifit us in one way or another. There is no such thing as a selfless act.

Omg! Is there a disorder to moving your hands a lot when talking? OCD maybe? 'Cause this guy has it.

and I am 14th because I had to count that killjoy below me

its human nature to be self centered

im1..... i dont give a shit

You're all losers below me

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+Lisa C It is good to map your experience from the inside out. This is the best way to begin to understand what happened. Thank you for sharing and for taking the time to comment. Annie - gentlekindnesscoaching.com / Coaching to Overcome Narcissistic Abuse

+Fernando Hacil I am not quite sure how the PM works but you can reach me through my web site ... gentlekindnesscoaching.com There is a way to send me a message there that goes to my email alerts. Thank you for watching and commenting. I look forward to hearing from you at the gentle kindness coaching siteWishing you peace of mind,Blessings,Annie gentlekindnesscoaching.com

+Rick Stevens Your kind words touch my heart :)

+Aliza Naqvi Thank you for watching. Wishing you peace of mind and happiness,Annie gentlekindnesscoaching.com

+Damon Lenahan BPD Codependent and a Covert Narcissist makes for chaos and pain. I sympathize with you. Thank you for watching and taking the time to comment. I appreciate your support.Blessings,Annie gentlekindnesscoaching.com

+Be The Light Your words touch my heart. Thank you so much for being genuine and real. When we have been through abuse from narcissists we are used to abusers being fake and not Real. It becomes important to connect with people are Real and down to earth.I am glad the videos are helping. People need to feel validated. I agree with you about the online people that act like the "Poor narcissists" cannot help how they are. If they were abused as children and we were abused as children...then aren't they capable just like we are...of making a different choice than ending up just like their parents?We did not want to be like out parents because we saw how that hurts people. The narcissist is also aware of how abuse hurts people. They are choosing to be the same way as their parents. They are adults and they are making that choice to be abusive.Wishing you peace,Annie gentlekindnesscoaching.com

+Diana Louise Yes she is. She is beautiful and smart.

+Diana Louise :)

+Soph side Thank you, it's comforting knowing you're not the only one.

+Gatekeepers Heart YIKES!! I said that wrong!! JESSICA INTERVIEWED the girl who lived with TEAL .......

+Gatekeepers Heart .... true forget about the newage or religion... that's irrelivent. However Jessica Schwab who lived with Teal in her house of followers suffered a great deal there and describes it in detail in a 5-hour video on Jessica's site. Narcissists are so clever... Still I agree always take what you like.. Swan makes excellent points.... Study her carefully though, and as a survivior of narcissists you will surely see familiar traits.

+talksolot well, my name was given to me by my x-brother in law when he was in a raging fit. For some reason I thought it was funny and kept it. I think I am a very strong person especially now. Once we get all this narc business down to a science, I will probably accept love from the real humans. Very soon we will be able to see who is who clearly.

+zerosister your indoctrination seems to be extreme. look at your username 'zerosister' sounds pretty dismal. of course you can have self respect and self love like any human being. the only thing wrong with you is your warped thinking. you are not less than anyone or incapable of anything. you are made by the same force that made everyone else and the sun shines on all of us equally just as the laws of life respond to all of us equally.

ok ok, lol absorb :)

+FariahH28 Great observation! I grew up in a Christian commune that was deemed a cult just before we left when I was 11. Before today I hadn't specifically made the connection between that and choosing to be with a controlling NPD as an adult...actually, more than one. But this morning I was with a new therapist and heard myself describing my past and present and afterwards it washed over me that the dynamic is indeed eerily similar. Hearing Richard today say, it's like a one-person cult, totally rings true. Including the ongoing brainwashing you mentioned, which is completely devastating when young children are involved.

+The K-dog NON SERVIAM SUPER-HERO

+Niels Schaap He is incredibly smart and kind. Good combo. And, he is one of the best teachers you will ever encounter.

No regular viewer of this channel will invalidate you and say you should be over it by now. You are among friends.

+Maxwell King aaah ok I get it now. I was closed minded because I disagreed with you saying we don't invite them in - because in fact we don't when we are simply born into that kind of family. And I was! but it took me a while anyway - apologies

+Maxwell King Yes, you are right; when we are born into a narcissistic family unit we are not consenting to anything. At that point in the video I was specifically referring to narcissistically abusive relationships in adulthood. Sorry for not being clearer.

+Maxwell King ok, I will endeavour to ascertain where my mind closed there Maxwell, if it did. Apologies if there was offence, none was intended and the written word can be tricky. I do feel that we do invite the narc, and for the reasons actually that you have mentioned - the conditioning from birth basically, to find the narcissist to be what makes "sense" to us.

Please keep an open mind; there is plenty of pain to be shared around; and as this is an ancient and very vexatious problem- these are the first true understandings and insights ever...

+SPARTANLIFECOACH the correct spelling is ACOANM RU4REAL for the Angela Maxwell is talking about. I haven't listened to her yet but here is a list of some of her vids: https://www.google.ca/search?q=angela+narcissistic+abuse+youtube&sourceid=ie7&rls=com.microsoft:en-CA:IE-Address&ie=&oe=&rlz=&gfe_rd=cr&ei=GQ6TVZWoO9DN3AGEw4H4Bw&gws_rd=ssl - ok I've watched a bit of her now and she is a survivor of narc abuse and tells her story for the purpose of warning and informing others. What she does is not in the arena of what you do therapeutically here, and as a specialist on the topic.As someone who was raised in a narcissistically abusive home I disagree with Maxwell - he may be hung up on semantics. We do invite the narc unconsciously, in the sense of allowing them in, and in the sense of being unconscious of what we are putting out to attract them - people pleasing behaviour for example. We very much do need to focus on changing that in ourselves - it's the only thing we can change, and nothing WILL change unless we do. My own experience is affirming this to me. Discovering what hoovering is for example, and realizing it's exactly what my mother and family do when I cut off from them,  has eliminated my feelings of guilt at not complying, and feeling sorry for them thinking I have "hurt" them. My God, the bullshit that has baffled my brain.

A very articulate and prolific Narc survivor from Philadelphia who uses AONAM RU4REAL on Youtube.She grew up in a very toxic Narc famiy and then married a Narc; 'you marry your mother' hence the phenomen of generationa Narcs- which is a whole world of pain more than you talk about.That said; thankyou very much for your posts which have been very informative and of great comfort to me. I have escaped with my sanity and my ife largely intact after going No Contact 25+ years ago.The big question tha vexes me currently is 'how does one explain Narcissism to 99% of the world when it is so anthetical to every belief, paradigm and  convention of mother nature  herself? In short I am going to have to convince a Court

+Maxwell King Angela ? Who is that?

+fairyp k i have been trying the grey rock technique and it makes him more transparent to me if that makes sense

+Narcissist Supporti think you did.

+EcceSignumRex Thanks! There is just SO much information I want to pass along, I want to make sure I'm covering all the bases. :)

+Cheese cake Thank you. Making these videos is just so rewarding, and I'm so glad that you are getting so much out of them. :) ...Sending some love right back at ya. <3

well i can say one thing, if he has to keep doing that and you don't care - you hold the power - the person who cares least about the other person in the relationship holds the most power, and don't worry people around him will see him for what he really is, it might take them some time but reasonable and sane people wont want anything to do with him. It must be very challenging and difficult for you but im glad you are living the life you rightfully deserve <3

+alcudiababe1 Oh my gosh-YES! Thank God my narc left last August & since then, he has posted a lot of CRAP about me on social media & thinks everything I post is about him! I have had NO contact for 5 months, & he is such a COWARD that he talks about me on his youtube channel projecting everything onto me! I can see what a weirdo he really is now. He has tried to make me look bad to others, but it doesn't matter anymore because I have gone on with my life & am successful, while he is still a whiney loser. Anyone that would be around him for very long would eventually see him for what he really is.

+alcudiababe1 Yup. Big time. The projection is really wild once we are able to distance ourselves emotionally and watch the situation without believing what they are saying.

I like that analogy!