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Hi Sam.My question is about the apparent difference in how the mood of the
Narcissist appears. I have 'surprised' my Narcissist friend a few times by
bumping into him accidentally on the street or by showing up to his place
unexpected..the strange thing is that his whole demeanour, emotional tone
and affect appear angry, hostile, moody, haughty, and so on when I catch a
glimpse of him prior, and then shortly after we meet he seems to switch to
a more extroverted and ostensibly affable mien. Is this to do with
Narcissists general state of mind or is it made worse by being 'surprised'
[how can someone else catch me off guard? I am the universe etc]??
The motivation may appear intentional and calculated, but narcissistic
behaviour is still rooted in instinctual maladaptions; an overwhelming
unconscious core belief that "others mean me harm, therefore I will get in
first", battling with a conscience that needs justification for those
actions and behaviours, resulting in an uncanny cunning as the self is also
being deceived. Of course he makes some good points. He certainly wouldn't
sell his book if he didn't ;-)
@airheadish You cannot get another person to seek therapy; instead, that
person has to feel the NEED to seek therapy on their own. ANy amount of
cajoling, arguing, convincing, etc will probably only cause said narcissist
to think YOU are the one who needs help, and will further entrench said
narcissist in their delusion. believe me, I've tried to get several ppl to
seek help... NONE have. Therapy can only come with self-revelation, or a
court order.
I think it is important for people to realise that emotional lability per
se does not constitute narcissism. I have ADHD and emotional lability is
integral to this but it is not indicative of narcissism. I do not respond
to criticism in the way described and I do not rely on narcissistic supply
but I can be thrown into ups and downs quite easily and it is something
which I have to work on through meditation and CBT...
I can see that, but then I think when a normal person is being verbally
bullied and criticized, even if it is true, they still react to it with
sadness but the difference is that they are not going to suddenly feel good
by a tiny compliment ... so this sign is a little tricky to recognize ...
This as all of your video articles has broadened my understanding of this
difficult personality disruption of deviation. At the risk of sounding like
a typical ex-husband I feel there are very direct correlation between her
personality and that of a Narcissist. How can i get her to seek therapy?
No. I think he makes some good points but I felt I had to supplement what
he had said in his video. Many behaviours associated with narcissism can be
the result of other things. It is the motivation behind the behaviour which
determines a persons level of narcissism...
This is true, it's REALLY easy to make them fall into DEPRESSION or compete
RAGE by just criticism even if what others say about them is TRUE, but at
the same time it's REALLY easy to boost their self-esteem back into
narcissism by just a TINY compliment.
What about a mood swing in the opposite direction? Is it common for someone
with NPD to have an aggressive response to critisicm, and then "suck up"
after that, making everything seem like it smells like roses?
I took celexa which made it worse but zoloft works great for me, I take the
lowest dose and increase it slightly when I am going through a really tough
trial, but that usually only lasts a few days.
Interesting how he says SSRI antidepressants are linked to mini psychotic
episodes and rage attacks. This video was made in 2011, way before the
Connecticut school shooting.
Sam Vaknin's mission seems to be to tie every human dysfunction, failing
and imperfection in with the label "Narcissist". I am sure it helps him
sell more of his book.