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i have said what i have said and honestly i follow Paul as he inturn followed Christ. Paul spoke of grace NOT law and he was the apostle to the gentiles and the few jews who decide to listen to the gospel of which is about Christ's death burial and resurrection. all scripture can be learned from but i myself chose to follow the new covenant grace teachings and the only sound doctrinal teacher i listen to is Les Feldick...check him out he is on youtube. the sabbath my friend was a sign for JEWS!

Dear one,upon reading that you follow Paul as he followed Christ I read in Acts 28:17 where he hadn't committed anything against the CUSTOMS of their fathers and seeing the word "customs" brings me back to where the bible said "as His CUSTOM was He went into the synagogue on THE sabbath day Luke 14:16 Jesus is our example and Paul's too Acts17:2.Dont forget "the Law is holy and just and good Rom7:12.Seems to me there's a misunderstanding of the scriptures here.I humbly await your kind response.

Are you saying that God Changed the law? I think you should read your Bible again. In that context then God can and does change his Law.so I dont need the Ten Commandments I can do what I want since the Law was done away with.I am sorry but you should reread your Bible as God says He never changes, and Christ wouldnt have needed to die!The Sabbath was created at the end of creation not at Mount Sini.Please if you truely are interested in the truth reread the whole Bible not just what you want.

James was legalistic but it was not his fault for Christ did not reveal the truth to him...isnt that what your bible says?? why are you debating this with me...does not your bible also state that debating is a sin?? i know it's hard to stop this because i used to do it but when i found out i was in err i stopped. while you are paying attention to the book of James also pay attention to Galatians 3:10-12 a passage Paul wrote. until the Holy Spirit opens your eyes understand we will NEVER agree

so true & that right there shows me that this is nothing but work of the devil. td jakes is a false teacher & going to him but claiming to be a seven day adventist is a little off. i am not a seven day adventist but a christian who believes in Jesus Christ as God Himself who came in the flesh. i do not put myself in a 'denomination' category but i dont follow the sabbath like a 7 day believer because the KJV bible i read &follow clearly states that we are not under the law but saved by grace

I feel sorry for you. I hope your eyes will be opened as well. Only faith in Christ will save us. It is my faith in Christ that lets me know that murder, lying, adultery, as well as deliberate disobedience in rejecting the Sabbath is wrong. Once again the only reason why man has taken one out of the Ten is because of its inconvenience to them but the rest they'll accept? What hypocrisy. James 2:10 "For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all."

one last thing until another response you make, under this grace period which is the time we are saved by faith plus NOTHING and not by our works both Jews and gentiles can be saved. the unfortunate thing is that most Jews -not ALL- are still waiting for their Messiah and do not believe He already came long ago. i have read when Christ sets up His kingdom on Earth from the KJV that they will indeed (Jews and maybe some gentiles) go back under the law but for now we are the 'CHURCH AGE'

I should have waited to read your comment before I added mine. God does not want us to fight "battles for him. He has his "weapons' . Not only is TD Jakes against the Bible SABBATH which is the greatest testimony of man's reason for existence( to honor the Creator) and many Seventh Day Adventist bible supporting beliefs. (by the way.>SeventhDayAdventists >not just> Adventists) DeVon Franklin's life is his to live, but he better be very careful of the VERY thin line that he walks upon.

Paul's epistles for the grace/church age are not in ACTS but can be found in Romans - Philemon. Yes he wrote Hebrews but it was directed -primarily- to Jews. If you read Romans to Philemon you WILL see Paul addressing the -CHURCH- on how to live, behave and act of which we can apply to our lives today. The gospel unto salvation is also found through those mentioned scriptures and it is in 1 Corinthians 15:1-4! Romans 2:12 1 Corinthians 9:21 please READ and STUDY those 2 passages!!!

Absolutely inappropriate. Counsel on money/ hollywoood/ but SPIRITUAL counselling?.. Do you ever see a Mormon being spiritually counseled by an Imam. spiritual leader. How about a Roman Catholic going to a Rabbi for counseling..Likewise ..if you are seeking " SPIRITUAL"counsel from one who does not share your spiritual conviction then it is rather out of place and "spiritually" blind to seek counsel outside of what you believe in entirety. ( And YES !! there is a difference.)

"For verily I say unto you, Till heaven and earth pass, one jot or one tittle shall in no wise pass from the law, till all be fulfilled. Whosoever therefore shall break one of these least commandments, and shall teach men so, he shall be called the least in the kingdom of heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach [them], the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven." How do you separate one command from the Ten?!

"Thus the heavens and the earth were finished, and all the host of them. And on the seventh day God ended his work which he had made; and he rested on the seventh day from all his work which he had made. And God blessed the seventh day, and sanctified it: because that in it he had rested from all his work which God created and made." Sorry no one can undue what the Creator has decreed! Paul is not greater than Jesus!

As the Sabbath is a major part of the Adventist fundamental belief, to say that its meaningless and virtually silly to observe, (as Jakes did) would be going against your fundamental beliefs. Now, if a man is in disagreement with a major part of your faith, how on earth can that man give you counsel on any spiritual matter? Satan disagreed with Gods doctrine & Eve took his council.... See what happened.

your totally missing WHO this passage was about or in reference to. Jesus Christ spoke primarily to Jews and not gentiles except for approx 2-3 occasions. Jesus Christ also told/commanded His disciples NOT to minister or go to the gentiles as well which is why Paul and Paul alone is the apostle to the gentiles my friend. your eyes need to be opened but only the Lord can do such a thing

Not trying to be judgmental just wondering WHY...T.D. Jakes is totally against the Sabbath soooooo WHY HIM?? It's his life and it's his marriage, not mine but I'm not gonna have somebody be my spiritual advisor if they disagree with the 4 commandment....that Sabbath biz is holy...but who would understand this?? Spiritual things are spiritually discerned...

No sweetie, in Genesis 2:2-3, there was no Jewish nation yet. God blessed that day and the Bible says He ended His work and rested and sanctified the Seventh Day. No where in Scripture has He ever blessed any other day! Try reading it for yourself and getting your facts straight. Once God blesses something it is done. And Jesus said,

lol... he is saying that be cause society has made men to feel macho, instead of good loving fathers and husbands. At the end of the day, most men struggle with how to be nice but at the same time not look like a pussy, cause the media drives us towards a sex first enviorment. When you trust and talk openly esspcailly with a man that isn't open in coversation, then you give me a greater ability to transfere those years of repressed emotion against treating a woman like a lover instead of meat.

@divanne77 Absolutely not, I think I said that several times. It is not just a guy thing, regardless if women want to admit it or not, they do enjoy sex as well. I feel marriage is a very beautiful arrangement. People have made it into this ball and chain thing. They have forgotten love is to be fun, shared and lived and not just one part. It is crazy what some people do to their spouses and not done in love and they do not honor their vows. This may sound weird, but I believe it is sacred.

no it isn't, respect is a two way street or if you will for an approriate annecdote it is both parties responsiblities to water the garden. Maintaining communication is prime, I've known plenty of men fully taken advantage of by women for years 10+ only to eventually leave them dumbfounded and speechless after mindnumbing amounts of complaints. This blaming men for everything bullshit is just one of the problems fucking up society, I could go on but I really feel I would be wasting my time.

@divanne77 that was not the case in my situtation. He just wanted his cake and icing too. I feel sorry for those people who withhold love and affection to manipulate to gain what ever it is that they want. Believe me affection and love go both ways. It is sad that someone has someone who loves and cares for them, be it male or female. It is so wrong & abusive in my point of view. Love is not manipulative, hateful, or mean, and to with hold love is not a correct thing to do for either part.

the emotional connection to which your cheaters refer is the maternal incestuous fantasies these ego maniacs want from a spouse but can not have because she/he is a parent to her/his own children. GROW UP and face your responsibilities. the cheater cheats because HE or SHE does not value the wedding vows each made on the day of worldly commitment to one another. anything else is just a padded cell for them (the cheater) to use a s reality buffer from her/his true destructive priorities.

if men were given education and began to understand that women aren't an automobile or a machine he can just replace or bye a new when it doesn't work,a lot of the problem would've been solved.The average male doesn't want to work more than he has to and certainly not on a relationship.They consider it foolish or womens responsibility.If men really wants exitment,more sex,more attention from their women,give and you will get! Men are aware of thire needs as humans,women are humans too!!!

As a woman I gotta say, i agree with this guy. :O Women always need to be reassured,want to feel appreciated etc..whereas the men don't? I think they do deserve a "pat on the back" as oppose to "i'm busy"..a woman would get that answer and she would feel sad and cry about it and say how hard she worked and gets no appreciation for it from her husband and that's "ok"..but a man says it and he needs to "grow up"? Of course it works both ways both should be treated with love and attn.

My life partner age 52 is cheating for the last 4 years with a 26 year old now mother to his 2.5 year old child. I resently found very sexually graffic photos of her on a secret cell phone. this is after he told me several times it was over between them. Needless to say I tossed him out and he went right to her, but begged to come back in 3 day. I don't believe this has ended I just don't trust his words anymore, yet we have been together for 15 years and I love him....what to do??

Emotional Disconnection??? lolololol. What a complete joke. Of all my married friends, coworkers, relatives, etc, none have ever used this excuse. They take their wedding rings off when we go out for one reason; the thrill of possibly having sex with a different person. Thinking of how she looks naked. How her privates smell. How she tastes. How her pubic hair is trimmed. What kind of panties she wears. How she will respond to your touch. Its all pretty self explanatory and basic.

And sorry for being so vocal about this - but it really hit a nerve - from a woman with six children (all of them planned and wanted by both my ex and me) The very title of this video pisses me off and I wish I could go on Oprah with this guy and duke it out... Another question comes to mind - WHY...if my man "STRAYS" should I DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT? (other than kick his sorry ass out - which I finally did - after the THIRD girlfriend)? Why is it MY fault? Don't think so - Tim.....

Its so funny how people try to find excuses for why men cheat. Chris Rock said it best when he said men are only as faithfull as their options. Women are attracted to power, money, charm, good looks, sense of humor, security etc. But guess what, other women are attracted to that same man. When the option presents itself, and the guy believes he can get away with it, he takes the risk. Face it, its in our blood,. The man cant stop it, he can only hope to contain it.

Just more bloody excuses, this is all I got from this video. Frankly I'm sick of this shit. How about ppl get off their lazy ass' and do it for themselves. Validate, compliment, etc. one's self, STOP DEPENDING ON SOMEONE ELSE TO DO IT FOR YOU! If one is not happy with who they are no amount of nothing is going to make them happy. I and ONLY I am responsible for (all aspects) my happiness. Maybe, just maybe this is the very reason I have never had an affair.

People cheat because they want to, not because they are crippled from some kind of mental suffering or because something is missing in them or their life. When their 'gut' signals they are doing something wrong but they choose to ignore it is the moment they can no longer claim that they did not know what they were doing or were not behaving as themselves; All excuses are null and void. Cheater is a label that is chosen through free will and is deliberate.

did you know when proffessional prostitues in countries all over the world were questioned regarding their clients the number one thing they found men came to do? Have a woman listen to what they have to say, was like 43% of the reason they were their. Marriage is an institution a few thousand years old evolution between men and women for the human race is millions. Enviromental nuturing behavior will win out against social props every time.

Do you ever wonder why your husband stays late at the office? I work for a large financial firm, and its always the men who stay late. I analyzed this when I first started working. Its not because they have lots of work to finish. No, no no. The truth is, they know that when they leave the office, they have to face the reality that they are married. So sad, but soooooo true. Dont believe me? Start analyzing others. Its not rocket science.

If you're a woman, who demands loyalty from your boyfriend or husband, you need to settle for less that what turns you on. If you're willing to settle for a boring, unattractive, modest guy who likes sci-fi and video games, you may be in luck. If you insist on the jock or the power driven career business tycoon, you'd better accept the reality that he will cheat on you. Other women will always be there when you aren't.

+Natalie (ThePoet) Thank You !!

+Ziya EmpereurI didn't mean that does she believe in the existence of the universe or Jesus, but which one does she believe in theologically speaking. I believe in the existence of the universe, too. But Jesus is God.

+Johanna040713 Both

+Peace and Love That is what you are seeing.  What about the other way around ?  How would it be for you ?

That is how the victimizor’s mind would think… even if you have a point.

+CashFlow Queen i love that quote! Forgiveness is such a blessing. It sets our souls free! Anger, bitterness, resentment...those all stem from the ego. The ego is synonymous with fear and the opposite of fear is love. The ego wants to keep us stuck, but when you forgive and choose love instead of that fear you end up growing and become even more blessed. +Nikka Rose Blocking miracles is right! Every encounter we make is a divine encounter. A lesson to be learned. good or bad, every letdown has a lesson. These lessons are preparing us for bigger, better things. They're preparing us for miracles. When we are so closed off because of our egos, we end up missing the miracle because our lack of gratitude. Compassion! What a beautiful act, hard to practice at times but so worth it if you make the commitment. <3

I just posted something similar to this on facebook. It reminds me of a quote someone said years go. "Being angry and harboring negative feelings towards others is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies." Instead kill the negativity within thru the act of forgiveness. It just feels better. much luv, bless

+Bozo onthebus hahaha I see what you did there.....but yeah..he is the credit master.

Does Jesus have good credit? 

Practicing forgiveness does not require a belief in God. You can view it in practical terms as reliease from painful states of mind.

+beholdthenewsupreme..I have no idea if the law of attraction is real. There are videos on youtube about it, books, lectures on it.  

+HopeForBetterDays1 is law of attraction real? are there any proof on energy ? please tell me how it works :( 

Energy is energy and alchemy is alchemy. You don't have to believe in God for the energy to work. Or life to work out the way she explains.

I always wonder that too, as an agnostic.I figure I'll act "as if."  I'm going to do it anyway.Like Marianne said, I'm already in pain carrying around this resentment - it'd be easier for me to forgive.  I don't have the faith that my friends do - but I'll pretend that I do and see what happens.Today is Day 1.

out of his empty shell...

You are so right ... Maybe the narc will come out of shell !! She lost me on that..

+jøkul ptroyour answer to Miguel was:jøkul ptro31.12.2014Have you ever considered the possibility that there might exist narcissists who are in control of and understand their emotions, and in that way have grown or evolved out of it? You should consider this more before you give in to your fear and run in panicked circles.no further discussion needed

+jøkul ptro next time, when I meet a person, who tells me "uhm, I am a malignant, covered narcissist", then I will ask him for patience to have time to study what "malignant, covered narcissism" means and how to cope with them.When a narcissist is hurting his/her victim, then the victim does not care whether the narcissist was abused in his/her childhood, because in this very moment it is more important to get away.I know very well how these people are being "created". And this helps to understand why they are acting in a way. But: they will never be able to fully control themselves, because they are acting out of fear. And this feeling is created in one of the oldest parts of the brain. It's one of the most powerful parts of the brain and one of the most powerful emotions a being has, because it is connected with the will to save ones life from any harm. And because of this immense fear most narc's have suffered from, empathy is not important to them. They just do not feel the pain of their victims and that makes them harmful towards others.That is why I think, you can not tell people to feel sorry for someone who hurts them. It is, in fact very sad, what made these people becoming narcissistic, but it is no excuse for being malignant to others.   And do you honestly want other people to make this experience as well by saying that someone should not say on the first instance that a narc is malignant? If someone decides that a person is not good for him or her, then this person is not good to him or her. Have you ever thought about the possibility to be a codependent or being kind of "used" to narcissistic abuse to that point that it is normal to you or that makes you feel understanding the misery of narcissistic people up to the point that you are not able to realize or understand that these people actually can hurt others?

+jøkul ptro Nevertheless, when such a covert narcissist has destroyed your life, then believe me, you do not give a f*** why he is the way he is. There is no "sorry" for being malignant towards others. Please respect this. And you are not in the position to tell other people to get along or to try to get along with these people, because they can be dangerous. By telling people not to consider narcissists being dangerous you simply put their lifes and their well-beings on risk. 

+jøkul ptro good point, but that's also what narcissists say to get what they want. Especially, coverered narcissist's pretend they are nice. So... It's a very tricky question whether narcissists should be considered being dangerous or not dangerous. I guess, for the people who have not dealt with narcissists before, the safest option is to go away. Of course, there are also narcissists who try to control themselves, but it does not necessarily mean that these narcissists do not hurt people - only victims can tell you whether they've been hurt or not and codependents don't seem to consider themselves being of any value as they seem to put their partners on a higher level. Thus I guess they could even neglect that they've been hurt as a result of some kind of very low self esteem.

+Izabela Gomez Don't forget Mo Collins. the two of them are BRILLIANT!

+TheTestingGrounds I didn't notice that at first, had to go back and check. She laughed histerically and tried to hide it. LOL

+Christian Gainey No worries. We did get Mad TV in Australia but I personally remember watching it at 1am during my university years (Im now 35 I was 19 or 20 at the time) in what would've been about 2000 and I never saw Debra Wilson in the few episodes I watched, I did remember liking Mad TV's style though. It was more off the wall than SNL which to me seems too much like some sort of private club than a real sketch comedy show half the time. 

Just curious. :)

+Christian Gainey Australian, why? 

If you are not American, then what are you?

+Clara Going Bye ByeIt is but they've been with each other since the 80s clearly something is keeping them together. It could be real love or or not wanting to lose those sweet Lexus privileges xD

+The Dynast Queen Didn't realise it was that heavy. 

+Clara Going Bye Bye No one is really sure because neither her or Stedman really talk about their relationship, its private so rumors start. Since they never married, Oprah is powerful and we see more of her friend Gayle than him many assume Stedman is more of a paid servant/boy toy not an actual boyfriend anymore. Either way he ain't going no where, he knows better than to leave a billionaire who can destroy him.

+Jason Marin No, I'm sorry. I saw it years and years ago.

+niaya12 Never saw that episode. Do you remember the title?

stephanie too

+bob smith Agreed 100%. Just shallow pap questions. What a waste.

thats oprah for you

+Ka Boom What is wrong with you? this is just an interview. How do you even take fun in all you say?

+Riley Walker The Road is positively sanguine, compared to some of his other works.

McCarthy can even make you feel bad when you read about terrible people suffering (like the Kid in Blood Meridian), and his depiction of innocent people suffering is even more heart wrenching.

women are stupid.

+Roman Brown I don't remember Billy Parham ever being the kind of person who'd write so much 'bout anything. Nor John Grady Cole for that matter. Suttree might, but he was a bit of a headcase, and quite particular to his time and place.Cormac is a damn good writer, but he's pretty much just that.

I aint no Christian.  And when I say Cormac channels demons I am speaking metaphorically. Demons of the subconscious kinda thing.  The kind that were programmed into the tissues of our mind through evolution and what not.  So chill out, holy roller.  Also by LOL I meant lots of love, not laugh out loud.  I truly love Cormac McCarthy like a brother.  They call him a private man, yet with his work he has exposed his soul to the world like no other artist I can think of.  It actually bothers me a little how much I admire his work.  His protagonists are like me.  Hell bent trouble makers, doomed by their own stupid pride.   

People like you make the rest of christians look bad.

It's not so much a money issue to me as her being flummoxed by him not providing her with easy answers to complicated questions.  I don't mean anything invidious by this, but Oprah is a symptom of a popular culture that wants instant gratification and easy answers to complicated questions.  McCarthy seems to be saying that easy answers aren't worth our time.

couldn't agree with you more.  these two human beings could not be more opposite in their intentions, their processes, and just in the way that they approach life and other people.  oprah has sought to, and has succeeded in, making billions of dollars by being the king of the American idiot.  McCarthy writes for a very small audience, by any measure, but certainly in comparison.