57:22 - Yes! That is where their pathological need for "getting in someone
else head" comes from.
Their own cyclical fixation (of their target) is so strong, that in turn,
they need to "unprime" their psychotic obsession via transference and
projection etc.
Or else face said cyclical fixation within the confines of their own
maladjusted/deranged minds.
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This morning, my son was commenting on the anti bullying "campaign" his
high school is promoting this week. He agrees it's all bullshit. It hit me
like a ton of bricks that the whole thing is ass backwards. The standard
approach is to try to get the bullies to understand the harm they do. From
my personal experience of a lifetime of narc bullies, when I began to stand
up and call these jack asses out on their hypocritical shit, they back
down. The anti bully programs in the schools should turn the program upside
down and teach the victims of bullying how to stand up and shut these
ignorant jack asses up. You can't be "nice" to jack asses. All we need do
is look to the animal kingdom for answers. You have got to growl back, take
a swipe with your claws and bite when necessary. I feel so much freer these
days now that I've taken a direct approach. They aren't going to respect
you out of human decency, but they will respect you out of fear. At one
time in my life, I would have proclaimed the inhumanity of intentional
"meanness", but not any more. Like attracts like, so if you're going to
treat me as less than human, less than respectable, then back at ya! Yes,
look out because I'm done with shitty, small minded, cruel people. These
school programs just reinforce bad jack ass behavior.
+clock99times I believe he was talking to lucky stars and I thank him for it because I was going to say the same thing. Lucky Stars advice is some bullshit so I would disregard.
What a bunch of blather. And quite frankly you come off as a narcopath. You used the typical blueprint these asswipes apply to immobilize any actions against them. Your lies were meant to instill a self defeating sense that we're helpless. Maybe you feel like you're a loser, and you probably are, but don't come to this site and try to lasso the rest of us into your corral of self hatred.
You have a special place in my heart because of your situation of having to live with the toxic family members. I know that one day you'll be able to leave it all behind. In the meantime, keep up the good rants and intelligent conversation. You are an inspiration to so many, and I know that the universe will pay you back in kind for your efforts.
+Grace Colleen There was a blood relative who was bullying me to get into the teaching industry YEARS after I had already completed my degrees that are not related to education or teaching. After hours of arguing in circles with him I was exhausted and enraged. Weeks later he admits that he wanted to teach but didn't want to deal with bad children and bad parents. So then that begs the questions, why exactly would I want to deal with bad children and bad parents? Duh. That's the type of interpersonal sabotage that I am forced into dealing with. Ugh.
+Cindy Trumbo I think the parents should be fined or penalized for the misconduct of their bully children. That's a great article. Thank you for posting it.
+Cindy Trumbo I taught high school for two years...terrible job because you have to deal with the parents! The worst kids got it straight from home! Oh the stories I could tell....
+Grace Colleen I believe the reason the schools do it this way is because the bullies parents are bullies and the principal feels threatened by the parents.
+Lucky Stars My comment is strictly about your garden variety bullies. Most are just cowards and with one good swipe at them, they back down. You have to have some backbone with these types of bullies. On the other hand, the hard core narc is a character very familiar to me. My mother is a covert narc, I married 2 narc husbands. The first x narc beat me a dozen times and tried to take my child from me. The other destroyed my mind and then tried to hit me and then tried to take my child from me. History repeated itself till I got it. I have no contact with either x narc and no contact with my narc mother. I may be in the anger phase of all the grief I've lived through, but I know I'm strong enough to take on the average jackass bully. If I sense that there is a true narc anywhere near me, I walk the other way....far, far away. I have lost all my delusions that everyone has some good in them. No more rose colored glasses here, and that is why I have no problem anymore in standing up for myself. There is nothing that anyone can take from me anymore. I am 100% self validated and approved. I now know that to achieve balance on an energetic level, you have to make a move and say no more! We can not delude ourselves into thinking that the bullies and/or the narcs have anything inside of them that is salvageable. At this point in my life after years of battling bullies and narcs and almost loosing my life, I would rather that they stay away from me out of fear. An authentic and loving person will find me to be a most caring and authentic friend. Like attracts like. If you give me shit, you'll now get shit back. I won't try to change you or rationalize away your shitty behavior. If you treat me with respect and kindness, that is what you'll find here. All of us have lived through abuse of some form. It's what we did with it in the end that matters. I don't need to find my way back from anything. I now know who I am.
A wise man once said.. "Push me..? SHOVE YOU." and that does work with your typical bully, but I have learned the hard way, this is a dangerous game with true narco's, as that is what they feed off of, DRAMA, so standing up to them, fighting back, holding up that mirror exploiting their weaknesses will only enforce their campaign against you, proving THEY are the victim, all the while growing their army of sheople to launch the next attack, ten fold from the last. Trust believe that they are already 10 steps ahead of you, planting seeds of hate, ever so sweetly, with a smile & wink to any and everyone within reach, even invading your own family. These junk of wasted skin bags have no problem destroying you, and will, if you reflect any of their behavior back, giving them a taste of their own medicine, expose them or fight back you will find yourself in a sick, twisted battle with a souless ego and their troops, disguised as social sweethearts, volunteers, peace keepers & good guys, oblivious of the truth, taking the side of your narco in a misled stand against you whipped up by that very same monster you took on, for the sake of justice fighting the good fight.. haha, this is no average bully, this is a beautiful disaster, hell bent on your total annihilation. As you said, like attracts like... dare you cross that line how will you find your way back?
20yrs Later,Susan Smith Claims She Loved Her Boys??
There are some mightily twisted Farquhars in this world. I've known women
who have just had kids to get priority council housing. Of course they
will do, as the kids have to be considered as a priority. Very mercenary
women, who have negative views toward heterosexuality. They want it all,
and don't care how much that egocentric negativity screws up their kids.
+Rebecca BradleyWell, I took over the cooking, because my wife's arthritis had become too severe. I just make sure that I limit the amount of junk to reasonable levels. Still eat some junk, but not too much.
+Stephen Clementson yeah,dealing with that with my husband right now,he loves his junk food..wouldnt let him buy dorittos last week and he pitched a fit in the middle of the store,lol..he got them any way of course..I buy all healthy snacks and here hes buying junk food..frustrating to say the least..
+Rebecca BradleyI had a weight problem for decades. But, since I started taking responsibility for the cooking, my weight has slowly, and safely, declined. I am now into medium fitting clothes. Forget weighing, as that means nothing. Fast weight loss caused me problems in the past, and I lost control of it.
+Stephen Clementson we all should take better care of ourselves..My brother had a friend who was stricken with MS and he did not take care of himself,he just gave up...
+Rebecca Bradley Its been too long to worry about it now, Becky. My parents have been dead for years. My mother effectively committed suicide twenty years ago, when she refused a cancer operation. My dad died in 2001. Neither of them were in good health, even without the cancer. Dad just didn't take care of himself, even when diagnosed with late onset diabetes.
+Rebecca BradleyI can assure you that its been a very difficult social situation for me to be in. My mother had long-term schizophrenia, and my father couldn't cope with it. A lot of people can't understand my lack of emotional connection to children, but, as my wife has said, I never had a childhood.
+Rebecca Bradley Apparently, she's left the UK now. I have not mentioned any names, because this case is none of my business. I should point out that I have never had any children, and I don't consider myself to have ever been emotionally equipped to cope with them.
+Rebecca Bradley I can well believe that it does. I know a woman, whom, we later discovered, had allowed her husband (she's been married more than once) to sexually molest her kids. Why? Because she only married for money. She used to be friends with my wife, but only because she'd been presenting an image of herself as a caring person. Her biggest mistake was to start pointing a finger of blame at the previous husband, who'd been molesting her kids. In order to point her finger at a previous husband, she had to admit that she'd known all along that he was doing it. Did she stop him? No, because he had a lot of money at the time.
She also admitted to having an affair with her step-father while she was
married and the sex parties with her other boyfriend, the rich guy that
dumped her. Its a sensational story for them to dig up, imo. They should
have executed that bitch, imo.
I lost a friend to suicide when I was in grade school. Her mother
attempted suicide by inhaling fumes from the car in the garage. They guess
she changed her mind and started back into the house, opened the door and
passed out. The fumes then killed her, my friend and her little brother.
This was the late 70s.
+Stray Dog Crew I agree,I still dont get why they didnt...and now she'll be up for parole in 2024..Justice was not served imo..Thats awful brother, bout 16 yrs ago me an dmy husband found one of our closest friends dead..the cops said suicide,but imo it was an execution..assholes covering up for someone as per usual..that shit still haunts me..
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